We’re moving within The Hague

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We have great news to share. We are moving to another apartment. This time it will be an apartment closer to the primary school of my daughter. Our son will start at the same school in February 2020. The move will be on Sunday 23rd of June. Afterwards I will take a week off and on Monday 1st of July the coaching practice opens on the new location.

This photo was sent to me by one of my former clients who received the news through the Dutch Orchid of Life newsletter. When she received it she was driving in one of the nearby streets while she actually lives in Rotterdam at the moment. Fantastic.

My webmaster wrote me that we would be neighbours. The door would be always open for a cup of tea and it would make our lives easier to discuss website related stuff. Awesome.

And moms of many of my daughters friends reacted enthusiastic because playdates would be easier to organise. My partner’s best friend will be living around the corner.

I feel truly blessed with so many people around me who are dear to me, each and every one of them.

With Com-Passion,

Chungmei
HSP Coach & Rebirther

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Rebirthing: the body will never lie

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It’s amazing that an introduction of only 15 minutes to the conscious connected breathing gives me more information about someone’s true health than talking for an hour. 

Last week I spoke to a young lady who works for the government. She is doing a trainee ship. When she was a few months in she noticed an extreme tiredness. As of December last year she got familiar with high sensitivity and felt embraced by everything she read. Her first session with me took her further into her emotional journey. 

First of all, as long as she remembers, she feels different compared to others. Now, forming part of a group of trainees who are guided to embark on managerial positions within the government, she feels lonely and has the tendency to hide. Why? 

  • Because she prefers to work in the quiet rooms;
  • The canteen is too busy for her, she rather walks outside;
  • She doesn’t drink alcohol which excludes her from the weekly informal meetings;
  • Colleagues are gossiping and judging about her way of being.

In short: she finds it hard to connect and mingle while the world around her is noisy, demanding and full of expectations. 

During the coaching I shared many stories which helped her to feel affirmed in who she is. She is not strange. She is a feeling being. We will work towards embracing her high sensitivity and how she can find ways to feel more connected with her surroundings.

After our talk I guided her through 15 minutes of conscious connected breathing. By feeling the heaviness and tension in her arms during the breathing process she was moved to share one of her main life events. During a funeral at the age of 14 she wasn’t able to move her arm to eat soup. Since then she developed a fear around her arm not functioning.

This was a psycho somatic experience which wasn’t dealt with properly. At the moment she isn’t consciously feeling the underlying emotions of her arm falling out in certain situations. During our coaching & rebirthing trajectory we will also work through this trauma. 

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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I just love breakthrough sessions!

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I just love breakthrough sessions!

Especially when it concerns the emotional development of someone who hasn’t been sleeping for years now due to high levels of tension in the body. In today’s session; the 27th coaching and rebirthing session, the client was finally able to continue the conscious connected breathing without any interruptions.

Client felt so fed up by how slow her healing process was coming along. After our talk about whether is better to breathe motivated by frustration and anger or love and compassion conclusion was it’s good to give room to the frustration and anger, because it will lower fear levels.

Anger is thé emotion which will help you overcome your fears. Hence client breathed with the motivation of being fed up. This was very helpful to open up the chest and get connected with the underlying tensions. Inner child of the client cried from trauma, these were healing tears. Later on the adult client cried out of hope, relieve and happiness of having reached this phase in the healing process.

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Guided meditations via FB Live. Breathe!

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Just received a client who was present at my 1st guided meditation via FB Live. It helped him to relax after a day full of calls and meetings. He put all upcoming data in his agenda. Yeah!! I feel enormously motivated to give these guided meditations and…even continue after this May project.

This idea of giving guided meditations through FB Live popped up somewhere last year, in February 2018. During 2018 my creative workgoal was to speak about my work through FB Live. Every month I spoke about a different topic in relationship to high sensitivity.

This was my focus and hence I didn’t have the mental, emotional and physical space to take action upon this idea of giving guided meditations through fb live. Furthermore I was busy tackling my fear of driving a car.

Now I am experiencing a new kind of freedom.

🌿 I’m into 1.5 year of car driving experience and I love to drive.

🌿 I easily put myself in front of a camera to speak about my work. I’ve even spoken in English and Spanish on Intstagram TV. (it’s not perfect, but what the h***)

🌿 My coaching and rebirthing practice is going well.

🌿 Freedom because of my youngest child is growing up. He is literally stepped out of his diaper phase and is talking lots.

By processing all fear in relationship to putting myself out there I’ve learned that there is a time and space for everything we want to do. I fully agree and feel the following quote by Rumi “The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear”. In many aspects of life I’ve become quieter and I have listened to my hunches. I’ve even let them guide me. Only sometimes the fear is too big or there is a lack in time and energy to start new projects.

But when an idea comes back around and around than you simply have to bow for it and act without thinking.

And that’s what I did with regards to these guided meditations. I’ve committed myself to be present every Tuesday evening until Summer holidays. What definitely motivates me is that current clients tell me they will be there and it is so much fun to bring people together. Afterwards I will evaluate and feel what’s up next.

Breath with me?

This is the facebook page: Hooggevoeligheid en intuïtie. (high sensitivity and intuition) It’s in Dutch, but I mentioning it anyway, because I have an Italian friend who takes fitness classes in Polish even though she doesn’t understand any of it 😉

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Where there is fear, there is growth

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Last evening I gave my 1st guided meditation through FB Live on my Dutch fb page named high sensitivity and intuition.

It went well and I had lots of fun teaching. The fun part was only in the moment! Before and after I was nervous: I couldn’t focus on watching a movie and I shed some tears. Afterwards my stomach felt empty in a painful way. So overall it wasn’t yet a relaxing experience for me.

During the moments of tension the following thought crossed my mind a couple of times: “why am I choosing to go through all of this??” My reaction was that I needed to challenge myself, but this wasn’t leading. I couldn’t longer neglect the Call. I/ my soul was “called” upon doing this for many times. It was an idea and opportunity I had to honour. I needed to Answer The Call as Brené Brown talks about in her Netflix talk “the Call to Courage”.

My partner @arnoldbalde added to this with: “You want to grow. It’s your soul’s biggest wish. Where there is fear, there is growth.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

On another note, the trauma note: Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

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Depression, panic attacks and not sleeping? Breathe.

Depression. Panic attacks. Not sleeping. Some of the clients I guide struggle with these symptoms.

I’m guiding a highly sensitive lady who has been thinking she is depressed for around 10 years. Off and on she was on medication. She has a degree in clinical psychology, but at the moment working in communication. The human psyche, spirituality and healing has her interest. Especially because she wants to feel better for so long and is now discovering how sensitive she really is.

For the past 4 years she is on her path of healing and is not taking medicine. All her loved ones support her, but they are inclined to regular health care and on her lowest points they would recommend her to start medicine again. Even though she hasn’t full emotional support of her loved ones she had faith and courage to continue this path. I am impressed, because now 25 coaching & rebirthing sessions in I got to know her fears fully. They are scary, dark and heavy.

During her 25th rebirthing session she faced and connected with a severe bodily tension several times. Before connecting she was more aware of the phases she had to go through:

  1. Tension pulled back her head which straigthened her neck
  2. Yawning
  3. And finally connecting with tension which also caused physical pain

She has a very high physical pain threshold. Even though she felt pain she thought she could continue breathing in stage 3 for maybe half an hour longer. She is learning how to cut herself some slack, give in and surrender. Surrender to the pain that she has been holding onto for so long.

Emotionally she has been disconnected from this tension and pain for decades. It stems from her childhood. The only way to release the tension was to make sounds in stead of crying. Her healing process is also showing her to embrace sadness and cry longer than she was used to doing.

After her 25th rebirthing session she wrote me the following:

Client: “You don’t know half how grateful I am to you. You let me experience and feel light again on the deepest layers of my being.”

Client was/ is struggling with the following:

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the mind is always occupied and thinking

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the body is continuous living in a state of stress

🌿 Breathing on a daily basis is superficial

🌿 Not being able to sleep and not sleeping enough hours per night

While she is struggling on a daily basis the amount of willpower she has keeps her working and doing all kinds of courses in personal development. How does she do this? I am convinced it’s her willpower, faith and trust.

What the client said about trust: “These breathing sessions have given me trust that I will get better over time. I am able to sit with the dark cloud, the heaviness and I know it will pass by. Parallel to this I feel lighter, a weight has fallen off my shoulders and there is more room for positive thoughts. I am on the right path.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

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