HSP & Animals: let the passion guide you

Thanks to my work I meet lots and lots of remarkable people. For instance this lady I met during a workshop emotion management for highly sensitive people. She attended the workshop because many people said to her she is highly sensitive. She wasn’t sure, she needed some acknowledgement about the sensitive person she is.

Fueled by the personal stories shared she opened up. She has worked as a clinical psychologist, but from a young age she wanted to work with animals. Every time she felt offbeat her mom put her in a meadow close to their horse. Their horse didn’t want to come close because of how she felt. It took some time to unwind, but every time she did feel at ease and happy again the horse would come closer to seek for physical contact.

For some time now she has embarked on a journey she is wildly passionate about. Now at the age of 35 she is studying to be a veterinarian in Belgium. When she was around 19 she tried several times to start this study in the Netherlands, but everytime she was rejected based on random selection. Another fun detail; her brother who is 32 is also studying to be a vet.

From her point of view everyone has a passion. Even if you don’t know what your passion is, it’s out there somewhere to grab you when you are ready to see, feel and embrace it fully. I wholeheartedly agree with her.

Amazing how something or someone you’re passionate about keeps guiding you in the right direction.

Here is another challenge: letting go of what you know and what feels familiar to dive in and surround yourself with the feelings and thoughts that feeds and lifts your soul.

Let your soul guide you, where ever you are in life. ♥️

Warm regards,
Chungmei
HSP Coach & Rebirther
Website: Orchid of Life 

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Rebirthing: connect with the pain

This morning I told this over and over again to someone who was doing the conscious connected breathing on the air matress.

Just breathe.

Just breathe.

Breath continously.

Take a deep inbreath.

And let go of the outbreath.

Just breathe.

I was reminded of this session by a tweet of @iyanlavanzant “Through our tears, we get in touch with those experiences we have forgotten, hidden or buried away in our souls”.

My experience is that many times people are not able to cry over these long hidden and buried trauma’s. They are disconnected from it. I would instead say that it is through experiencing the tension in the body that we are able to connect with this pain, this sadness. This leads to releasing the physical tension through making sounds and/or tears. And the first: making sounds will enrich the experience of crying of expressing the hurt without any fear of someone overhearing you or getting stuck in a depression.

No, none of that, crying your heart out has a cleansing effect on the soul and it clears the mind.

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My website: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

 

Our journey in finding the best education for our highly sensitive daughter

Our daughter is so happy summer holiday started. And especially that she will turn 8 this month. We’ve already celebrated her birthday with her friends from school. It was a mixture of friends from her current and her previous school. In her young school career she already got to know 3 schools.

Her first primary school (Montessori) was way too exhausting for her. She fell into a burnout. Her second school (private democratic system) was too unstructured for her. Her current school is part of Waldorf education. Regarding to structure and space for developing her creative skills they offer a right balance for her way of being and learning.

We have been through so much finding the right school for her. It has been a very emotional journey for my husband myself and our sweet and loving daughter. The right environment in which she can flourish as a person is essential to us, because we stand by one single conviction regarding children and education: children are perfect in and of itself.

They have come in our lives to teach us what we have forgotten: play, laughter, being in the moment, physical contact and having FUN while learning. They don’t need moulding and knowledge steered education, they need guidance to do what they have come here to share with all of us.

Speaking of going through emotional journeys in search of the right education for our children. Recently we met our new Brazilian neighbours who have come to the Netherlands for an indefinite period of time. They moved her from the South of Brazil for 3 main reasons: Waldorf related education for their children, safety and a healthier work/life balance.

When I listened to their story I felt myself tearing up from the inside. Their story radiated hope for the world. People who don’t have to move because of war, hunger, intolerance and oppression, but because they want to have their children grow up in an environment in which they can be the best version of themselves.

People are more conscious about what’s good for themselves and their environment and are acting upon it. And all these actions will mirror back to us the change we want to see in the world.

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Release your old, false identity

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I received the following text of someone I rebirth and is going through the darkest places within herself. She showed her gratitude for taking her hand and guiding her towards her actual rebirth, embracing her light. She is a wonderful, bright and strong willed woman. When she speaks I am in total awe of the images she presents and her choice of words.

Whenever a word is overused, it is most likely being misused, and over time, it begins to lose its meaningfulness. For example, we often refer to a fleeting feeling of depression or a period of confusion, as a dark night of the soul, but neither of these things qualifies as such. A dark night of the soul is a very specific experience that some people encounter on their spiritual journeys. There are people who never encounter a dark night of the soul, but others must endure this as part of the process of breaking through to the dawn of higher consciousness. 

The dark night of the soul invites us to fully recognize the confines of our egos’ identity. We may feel as if we are trapped in a prison that affords us no access to light or the outside. We are coming from a place of higher knowing, and we may have spent a lot of time and energy reaching toward the light of higher consciousness. This is why the dark night has such a quality of despair: We are suddenly shut off from what we thought we had realized and the emotional pain is very real. We may even begin to feel that it was all an illusion and that we are lost forever in this darkness.

The more we struggle, the darker things get, until finally we surrender to our not knowing what to do, how to think, where to turn. It is from this place of losing our sense of ourselves as in control that the ego begins to crack or soften and the possibility of light entering becomes real.

Some of us will have to endure this process only once in our lives, while others may have to go through it many times. The great revelation of the dark night is the releasing of our old, false identity. We finally give up believing in this false self and thus become capable of owning and embracing the light.

For more about my work and booking a session, see my website: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling 

Rebirthing: free yourself from fears

This quote is especially for the people who are already familiar with my work as a rebirther.

“Everytime we sit (breath) through an urgency barrier we get a fantastic realization of self, and learn more about the subconscious program that is controlling us.” ~ Leonard Orr

During the rebirthing process you have come across these “urgency barriers”. It’s when you:

• start yawning

• fall asleep

• wanting to move away from the physical expressions that have surfaced such as cramp and restlessness in legs and arms or huge amount of tension in the face

• thinking you can’t do this

• thinking it won’t help you any further

• doubting if you are breathing in the right way

• seeing images and feeling the urge to talk about it

• fear of what comes next, of the unknown

When these urgency barriers pop up I will guide you through it so you can experience how it feels like to live in a body and mind which has released physical and mental tensions.

You will experience more calmness in your body and more piece of mind. During the breathing process I tell people that every achievement they experience on the mat will somehow be reflected in their daily lives.

Imagine how it will feel like when you conquer your fears bit by bit! That’s amazing, that’s powerful and liberating.

A toast to you, my beautiful highly sensitive friends, for being courageous enough to step into this emotional development process in order to experience life as it should be. A life in which you feel relaxed, have much more positive thoughts than negative ones and feel the confidence to start new relationships and enhance the ones you have.

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Are you interested in starting rebirthing sessions? See my website for more information: www.orchidoflife.nl 

Warm regards,
Chungmei Cheng
HSP Coach & Rebirther

HSP: set yourself free from self-criticism

What I’ve noticed is that self-criticism is something you can hide for a long time. You can manage in the world, you can work your way to the top (your top) and everyone believes and perceives you as a person who has it all and who has nothing to worry about. False!

Self-criticism goes hand in hand with shame and lots of it. When you constantly believe you’re not doing it right, you are dumb or look terrible you work hard to not show anything of this to the people around you. Shame is an emotion which keeps you from sharing your true feelings and thoughts. You keep up this attitude in life which saves you of showing your vulnerability. You keep up your mask.

People who criticise themselves are ambitious and hard workers. They don’t feel their mental, emotional and physical bounderies. They are superman or woman. They fail (especially in their own eyes), they climb up, they disappoint themselves and this circle continues. Even though milestones are achieved, they don’t feel proud of themselves.

And this my friend is such a waste. When I speak of this I have a part of the highly sensitive people in mind whom I coach & rebirth. They are the sweetest, most loving and intelligent souls, but they don’t receive themselves as such.

Let’s turn this around. You are much more than than how that ugly and awful voice thinks you are and speaks to you. If this piece of writing resonates with you feel free to contact me and let’s start a journey which will set you free from self-criticism.

Warm regards,

Chungmei

HSP: living a creative life, it’s worth the effort

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At the moment I am in the train on my way to Utrecht to give a training on HSP and communicating your bounderies. This gives me time to have a little tête-à-tête with you on this insta-couch and facebook page.

I am so freaking proud of my hubby Arnold. To me he is thé example of a highly sensitive man chasing his ultimate dream. And to some extent we are in this together living our creative life based on our talents. But there are differences. The main difference is that Arnold is most happy when he or someone else puts a camera in front of his face so he can share his take on life. I am most happy when I see people processing their deepest limiting/ destructive emotions.

I’ll take you on a quick tour through his creative journey.

💫 He started out life with three nutrition titles on his name: two bachelors and one master.

💫 He never started a job based on those titles. Instead he ran his capoeira organization for 10 years: a capoeira group and giving all kinds of capoeira workhops to children and adults.

💫 During start-up of his capoeira organization a burn-out took him down. (And still dealing with a continuous headache while pursuing his ultimate dream)

💫 If determination would be a title given out by higher education establishments he would be given this title. While running his capoeira organization he pursued his dream to tell jokes on stage as a comedian. These 4 years were characterized by achievements and setbacks, but in general every step took him closer to be at ease with the most happy, cheerful and light version of himself.

💫 *deep sigh* And now finally he is putting in practice what the comedy world taught him: to simply be himself doing the things in life which gives him the most pleasure and joy. Parallel to this very important aspect he gets paid doing so. Living a highly sensitive creative life is possible. It’s not easy, but it’s gratifying to the max!!

Head over to his Insta @arnoldbalde to see what he is up too.
Like & follow his facebook page to support this crazy and super sensitive goal-orientated creator: https://www.facebook.com/voedinggezondheidleven/

Thanks a lot!