Guided meditations via FB Live. Breathe!

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Just received a client who was present at my 1st guided meditation via FB Live. It helped him to relax after a day full of calls and meetings. He put all upcoming data in his agenda. Yeah!! I feel enormously motivated to give these guided meditations and…even continue after this May project.

This idea of giving guided meditations through FB Live popped up somewhere last year, in February 2018. During 2018 my creative workgoal was to speak about my work through FB Live. Every month I spoke about a different topic in relationship to high sensitivity.

This was my focus and hence I didn’t have the mental, emotional and physical space to take action upon this idea of giving guided meditations through fb live. Furthermore I was busy tackling my fear of driving a car.

Now I am experiencing a new kind of freedom.

🌿 I’m into 1.5 year of car driving experience and I love to drive.

🌿 I easily put myself in front of a camera to speak about my work. I’ve even spoken in English and Spanish on Intstagram TV. (it’s not perfect, but what the h***)

🌿 My coaching and rebirthing practice is going well.

🌿 Freedom because of my youngest child is growing up. He is literally stepped out of his diaper phase and is talking lots.

By processing all fear in relationship to putting myself out there I’ve learned that there is a time and space for everything we want to do. I fully agree and feel the following quote by Rumi “The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear”. In many aspects of life I’ve become quieter and I have listened to my hunches. I’ve even let them guide me. Only sometimes the fear is too big or there is a lack in time and energy to start new projects.

But when an idea comes back around and around than you simply have to bow for it and act without thinking.

And that’s what I did with regards to these guided meditations. I’ve committed myself to be present every Tuesday evening until Summer holidays. What definitely motivates me is that current clients tell me they will be there and it is so much fun to bring people together. Afterwards I will evaluate and feel what’s up next.

Breath with me?

This is the facebook page: Hooggevoeligheid en intuïtie. (high sensitivity and intuition) It’s in Dutch, but I mentioning it anyway, because I have an Italian friend who takes fitness classes in Polish even though she doesn’t understand any of it 😉

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Where there is fear, there is growth

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Last evening I gave my 1st guided meditation through FB Live on my Dutch fb page named high sensitivity and intuition.

It went well and I had lots of fun teaching. The fun part was only in the moment! Before and after I was nervous: I couldn’t focus on watching a movie and I shed some tears. Afterwards my stomach felt empty in a painful way. So overall it wasn’t yet a relaxing experience for me.

During the moments of tension the following thought crossed my mind a couple of times: “why am I choosing to go through all of this??” My reaction was that I needed to challenge myself, but this wasn’t leading. I couldn’t longer neglect the Call. I/ my soul was “called” upon doing this for many times. It was an idea and opportunity I had to honour. I needed to Answer The Call as Brené Brown talks about in her Netflix talk “the Call to Courage”.

My partner @arnoldbalde added to this with: “You want to grow. It’s your soul’s biggest wish. Where there is fear, there is growth.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Depression, panic attacks and not sleeping? Breathe.

Depression. Panic attacks. Not sleeping. Some of the clients I guide struggle with these symptoms.

I’m guiding a highly sensitive lady who has been thinking she is depressed for around 10 years. Off and on she was on medication. She has a degree in clinical psychology, but at the moment working in communication. The human psyche, spirituality and healing has her interest. Especially because she wants to feel better for so long and is now discovering how sensitive she really is.

For the past 4 years she is on her path of healing and is not taking medicine. All her loved ones support her, but they are inclined to regular health care and on her lowest points they would recommend her to start medicine again. Even though she hasn’t full emotional support of her loved ones she had faith and courage to continue this path. I am impressed, because now 25 coaching & rebirthing sessions in I got to know her fears fully. They are scary, dark and heavy.

During her 25th rebirthing session she faced and connected with a severe bodily tension several times. Before connecting she was more aware of the phases she had to go through:

  1. Tension pulled back her head which straigthened her neck
  2. Yawning
  3. And finally connecting with tension which also caused physical pain

She has a very high physical pain threshold. Even though she felt pain she thought she could continue breathing in stage 3 for maybe half an hour longer. She is learning how to cut herself some slack, give in and surrender. Surrender to the pain that she has been holding onto for so long.

Emotionally she has been disconnected from this tension and pain for decades. It stems from her childhood. The only way to release the tension was to make sounds in stead of crying. Her healing process is also showing her to embrace sadness and cry longer than she was used to doing.

After her 25th rebirthing session she wrote me the following:

Client: “You don’t know half how grateful I am to you. You let me experience and feel light again on the deepest layers of my being.”

Client was/ is struggling with the following:

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the mind is always occupied and thinking

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the body is continuous living in a state of stress

🌿 Breathing on a daily basis is superficial

🌿 Not being able to sleep and not sleeping enough hours per night

While she is struggling on a daily basis the amount of willpower she has keeps her working and doing all kinds of courses in personal development. How does she do this? I am convinced it’s her willpower, faith and trust.

What the client said about trust: “These breathing sessions have given me trust that I will get better over time. I am able to sit with the dark cloud, the heaviness and I know it will pass by. Parallel to this I feel lighter, a weight has fallen off my shoulders and there is more room for positive thoughts. I am on the right path.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Feel the courage to act out of love

Yeah! Say that again. What I tell people during a rebirthing session:

Inhale positive energy, life energy. Inhale unconditional love, happiness and trust. Your inhalation will support, feed and connect you to your core, your soul, to feel that you may embrace all feelings. And that you deserve the life you desire.

Exhale negative energy and tension. Tension that was built up over years. Exhale anger, fear and sadness and all related emotions such as guilt, disappointment, loneliness, helplessness and even hate.

Yes, name every feeling you have, it doesn’t mean you actually hate the person or someone close to you. You disapprove of the behavior and suffer from the effect it has had or still has on your emotional body. You are in pain.

Doing the conscious connected breathing will connect you to your energetic body. The pain behind your limiting thoughts and behavior is stored in your energetic body. When the connection has been established the pain will surface in your physical body.

Then your mind will be confronted with the tension and stress in your physical body. When you feel safe enough you will be able to surrender to the sadness and other limiting emotions. When you don’t feel safe enough the body will be struggling to release the tension. That’s when I intervene with guidance. I’l help you to feel safe, to surrender.

With every tear you shed, with every scream out of anger or fear you slowly but steadily grow a healthy and loving connection with your body. Mind and body will befriend each other. The inner critic will make room for the voice which speaks out of love.

You will feel the courage to act out of love.

Breath with me?

With com-passion,

Chungmei Cheng

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Experience positive changes in your life

“Inhale with the motivation that you want to live, that you want to experience positive changes in your life.”

This is what I told a client during his first rebirthing session because he came across moments in his life that he wanted to stop living. The amount of sadness was unbearable. Out of self-protection he thought: when I’m gone I wont’t feel any of the sadness I’ve caused. But somewhere deep within he knew this wasn’t true.

And now he is here, in my coaching and rebirthing practice after years of struggeling; nasty divorce including the lives of four children and a series of lawsuits. After having read everything he wanted to know about personal development he had to acknowledge that he needed help, he needed healing.

In front of me was sitting a highly sensitive and highly gifted man. He is in pain. The pain has surfaced during the last 11 years, because of main life events, but was already present in his childhood. The fear of failure is noticable in many areas of his life. He longs for change. Positive changes. He has learned to give love, but never experienced to receive love.

To prepare him for the rebirthing/ breathing session I told him to surrender and not to expect anything. To surrender to the physical expressions of his body. He is a man who mostly lives in his head because of fear, but also because he is naturally curious, a thinker and someone who wants to solve everything by his own. The breathing session would help him to connect his head to his heart.

During his first rebirthing session he felt a tingling sensation in his arms and on his chest. He also experienced a lot of tension in his face to the amount that he couldn’t speak freely. Furthermore there was tension released in his neck after having focused on the thought “I accept myself fully”.

When you focus on the positive and act out of love you will “massage” the pain out of your system.

It was a great first session! Looking forward to the following rebirthing sessions.

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Warm regards,
Chungmei Cheng

Thank you for having been in my life

This week, out of nowhere, the following phrase popped up: Grown-ups who for whatever reason were quiet as a kid: write your BOOK, you have so much to share with the world. Same goes for me. I will do so when the time is ripe or when I feel I can grasp that momentum.

For now I would like to share tiny stories with you.

This week is Spring holidays and most of the week I’m with my kids doing all kinds of fun stuff. Work is also a part of this week. Mourning as well ánd processing trauma’s. But let’s live the unwinding and recharging part first. I’m a great fan of Mary Poppins and psyched about the new release. I’ve seen the original version a coupe of times with my daughter which absolutely dazzled her imagination. The sequel was amazingly magical. We’ve seen it together with a friend of hers.

Parallel to this my thoughts go to my uncle who is dying. He finds himself in the last stage. Last weekend I went up and down two times to where he resides. During the first visit I only meditated for him. I wanted to support him with words, but I couldn’t.

The second trip was spontaneous, because suddenly I realized what I wanted to share with him to support his passing. And this was damn hard. It was hard to see him suffer. For the first five minutes I held his arm and I couldn’t say a thing. A very nice lady, a volunteer came in the room and said she was there for me if I needed her.

I made use of this opportunity and sat down with her for a few minutes in the hallway. She said: “It’s normal. It’s a lot to take in and when you get emotional, words leave.”

When I went back in I knew exactly what to say. This was the first time that I experienced the passing of a loved one in such a conscious way. I was able to say goodbye in my own way. Next to the words I shared I meditated and communicated with him through the images of memories I have of him. More and more details appeared in the images and the inner smile I felt appeared on my face. When I left I told him I would go home and that he would too.

He passed away on Wednesday 27th of March at 7.02am. Thank you for having been in my life dear uncle.

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Aprende a lidiar con la energía negativa

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Las personas altamente sensibles son más propensas a la energía negativa. La energía negativa nos debilita de muchas maneras. De repente nos sentimos borrosos en la cabeza, débiles en las rodillas o nos golpean los calambres estomacales. En la mayoría de las situaciones, también estamos abrumados por la incapacidad de hablar por nosotros mismos. En mi práctica de coaching y renacimiento, he visto pasar a hombres y mujeres que estaban dispuestos a trabajar en esto, señalaron su incapacidad para manejar la energía negativa y querían descubrir de dónde venia esto.

Había un tipo en particular que sufrió hiperventilación después de un arrebato de un cliente. Fue enviado a una casa para arreglar las cosas que su colega no hizo correctamente. El cliente le mostró su decepción, aunque sabía que no era el causante del problema. En el momento en que lo manejó con cuidado, pero la energía llena de decepción y rabia encendida en su camino estuvo girando en su sistema durante días, ¡especialmente en su cabeza!

En su cabeza, fantasearía con escenarios futuros sobre conflictos con su empleador, colegas y clientes.

¿Y qué hacer si está trabajando con un jefe cuyo estado emocional es impredecible y confuso? Las personas altamente sensibles sienten cada cambio en el estado emocional de otras personas. Se sienten alertas cuando alguien entra en una reunión, una bebida o en la tienda de comestibles con un estado emocional que puede describirse como triste, frustrado o simplemente de mal humor. Dependiendo de la situación, tienen ganas de huir o quedarse quietos y esperar el momento adecuado para intervenir. En este caso, cuando se trabaja con un jefe que llega un día súper feliz y al día siguiente, como si la empresa colapsara delante de Sus ojos, ¿qué harías como una persona altamente sensible?

La respuesta a esta pregunta se puede encontrar en el núcleo del “problema”. He escrito un problema entre paréntesis, porque preferiría percibir los “problemas” emocionales / psicológicos como oportunidades para trabajar en el ser emocional de uno. En todas las situaciones anteriores, la energía negativa experimentada se remonta a la infancia de las personas altamente sensibles. Cuando no sabemos cómo lidiar con la energía negativa en situaciones cotidianas de adultos, esto es una señal de que no hemos aprendido a lidiar con diferentes energías negativas en el pasado.

La energía se puede leer como en “emociones”, emociones básicas como la ira y la tristeza.

Podríamos diferenciar estas emociones como decepción, frustración, irritación, luto, odio, angustia y envidia entre muchos más. Estas emociones se consideran negativas y, por lo tanto, me referiré a ellas como tales, pero en mi opinión del desarrollo personal, estas emociones son la puerta de entrada a la libertad emocional.

En la infancia, nuestra relación con nuestros cuidadores influye en la forma en que manejamos las emociones de los demás y de nosotros mismos. Cuando no hemos curado nuestras heridas emocionales, somos torturados consciente o inconscientemente por nuestras reacciones dirigidas por nuestro niño interior herido. El niño interior herido atraerá las experiencias de la vida para crecer emocionalmente. Una persona altamente sensible criada por cuidadores que todavía caminaban con su propio dolor; La ira y la tristeza absorberán automáticamente, estas emociones negativas. No son capaces de experimentar estas emociones separadas de sí mismas. Dependiendo del carácter del niño y la relación con sus cuidadores, se influirá en el desarrollo mental y emocional del niño.

Lo que sucede en la vida adulta es que las personas, cuando están abiertas para el desarrollo personal, comienzan a descubrir la raíz de sus patrones de comportamiento. Ajá, entonces la razón por la que no puedo manejar la decepción es porque he compensado mis inseguridades haciendo el trabajo más sublime que puedo hacer para que mi padre me note. Y caminar con una sensación general de inseguridad acerca de que yo asuma tanta responsabilidad es porque mi madre hizo todo lo posible por mí. Siempre que necesitaba ayuda, ella estaba allí. Quería estar allí, porque sus padres murieron cuando ella era joven. Ella ni siquiera llegó a conocerlos.

He hablado con muchas personas altamente sensibles que viven con las mejores intenciones y haciendo lo mejor que pueden por sus familias, pero con un cuidador que las aleja con una ira inesperada que no tiene nada que ver con ellas, caminan por la vida sintiendo miedo. Solo están paralizados por la ira mal colocada. Y existe este hambre, esta necesidad innata de reconocer quiénes son y este deseo de ser valorado por sus acciones. Valen la pena sentir todas las emociones corriendo por sus venas para que se liberen especialmente de las emociones que pesan.

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