La cura que has estado buscando es tu propio coraje

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Cada vez que guío sesiones, veo tanto crecimiento emocional en las personas. Me siento con energía y entusiasmo para seguir trabajando en todo lo que hago y comparto en las redes sociales.

Compartamos nuestra sensibilidad, nuestra vulnerabilidad, porque es un regalo y nuestra fuerza.

Hoy un cliente mío me agradeció por haber escrito un artículo sobre su desarrollo emocional. Ella lo vio pasar en la página de facebook de alta sensibilidad e intuición en Holandés. Mientras lo estaba leyendo, le sorprendió el reconocimiento: ¡se trataba de su desarrollo! Se sentía empoderada.

Poco después de haber leído el blog, tuvieron sus vecinos de visita. Ella hablaba de su desarrollo emocional y conto sobre mi trabajo. Ella no habría hecho eso como la persona introvertida que es, pero se sentía tan feliz y fuerte.

La siguiente cosa valiente que hizo fue contarle a su madre sobre el blog. Estaba haciendo todo tipo de cosas para calmar sus nervios. Tenía miedo por la reacción de su madre. Su madre estaba impresionada y feliz por ella. ¡Qué alivio! Durante años ella ha luchado contra sus miedos, pero ahora finalmente se ha rendido y está procesando sus miedos. Mi cliente estaba muy feliz con mi blog, porque yo le daba las palabras para compartirlo. 

También había transmitido las buenas noticias sobre su salud mental a su médico general, que una vez le agarró los brazos porque vino con un ataque de pánico. El médico general me preguntó por mi nombre y trabajo. ¡Qué increíble es eso!

Este es uno de los objetivos en los que estoy trabajando. Quiero compartir mi trabajo con practicantes mentales y físicos que trabajan en el ámbito de la salud. Poco a poco, pero de manera constante, estoy trabajando en el crecimiento de mi red para que todos RESPIREN.

Y gracias a mis clientes muy apreciados. Siento que el flujo de la vida, mi misión y mi visión se llevan a cabo sin esfuerzo. 

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HSP: I no longer am scared of myself

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Coaching & rebirthing experience of one of my clients…

Through my sessions with Chungmei and the guidance she’s offered me, a lot of aspects of myself and my past unfolded, somethings I didn’t know that I was capable of and I was still holding on to. 

It’s hard to describe the feeling you go through when you undergo the ‘rebirthing’ sessions. My experience is that lots of tension surfaced in my body. Sometimes I found a release in letting my voice be heard and other times a tear rolled down my face.

What in my experience made Chungmei different from other therapists is that I felt like she is so comfortable with showing her emotions too, as she is a highly sensitive person as well. This made me feel more understood in an unspoken kind of way. The entire process felt more natural, instead of a ‘by the book’ type of approach. In my mind that is also the way to go about it. Since every person is different, every experience, every trauma, and coping mechanism. 

I used to think that something was wrong with me, my way of handeling life and feelings. Since other people didn’t think something was quite a problem or that I was way more easily emotionally triggered. I thought I just had to toughen up, but was scared that that would mean that I couldn’t stay true to myself. I was afraid I had to change my way of treat people. 

But I can now say that I am still true to what I used to aspire to be. But more living from my own energy and more in control of my emotions. In a way that I accept all I’m feeling and undergoing it. instead of over analysing it mentally with how I am supposed to feel or think. 

I was scared that for the rest of my life thinking of my mother and remembering her would be linked with the immense feeling of not being able to breathe and pain. Chungmei asked me ‘ what if you could remember her in only but pure love’. I didn’t think that was possible. But now from time to time I’m capable of doing so. Not all the time yet, since im not completely there yet, but now I have experienced what she meant by that. 

Chungmei has been such a great attribute to my healing process and self acceptance. Her guidance ignited my inner wisdom and unconditional love on how to balance my emotions. I no longer am scared of myself, nor do I believe I’m too weak because of being more sensitive to stimulus around me. I now see it as a great aspect of myself and can use it better to my own advantage. 

I would recommend this to everyone to at least try it once. Might be the kind of therapy you didn’t know you needed. I hope to continue on this path of self-discovery, with the occasional knock on your door, Chungmei. 😉

Thank you so much for all you have done for me so far.

You are most welcome!

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HSP: ya no me tengo miedo de mí misma

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Experiencia en coaching y renacimiento de uno de mis clientes …

A través de mis sesiones con Chungmei y la guía que me ofreció, muchos aspectos de mi persona y mi pasado se desarrollaron, algunas cosas que no sabía que era capaz y que aún estaba aferrando.

Es difícil describir la sensación que experimentas cuando te sometes a las sesiones de “renacimiento”. Mi experiencia es que mucha tensión surgió en mi cuerpo. Algunas veces encontré una liberación al dejar que mi voz se escuchara y otras veces una lágrima rodó por mi cara.

Lo que en mi experiencia hizo que Chungmei se diferencie de otros terapeutas es que sentí que ella también se siente cómoda mostrando sus emociones, ya que también es una persona muy sensible. Esto me hizo sentir más comprendido de una manera tácita. Todo el proceso se sintió más natural, en lugar de un tipo de enfoque “por libro”. En mi mente, esa es también la manera de hacerlo. Dado que cada persona es diferente, cada experiencia, cada trauma y cada mecanismo de afrontamiento.

Solía ​​pensar que algo estaba mal conmigo, mi forma de manejar la vida y los sentimientos. Dado que otras personas no pensaban que algo era un problema o que yo era más fácil de activar emocionalmente. Pensé que solo tenía que endurecerme, pero tenía miedo de que eso significara que no podía mantenerme fiel a mí mismo. Tenía miedo de tener que cambiar mi forma de tratar a las personas.

Pero ahora puedo decir que sigo siendo fiel a lo que solía aspirar a ser. Pero más viviendo de mi propia energía y más en control de mis emociones. De una manera que acepto todo lo que estoy sintiendo y experimentando. En lugar de sobre analizarlo mentalmente con la forma en que se supone que debo sentir o pensar.

Tenía miedo de que por el resto de mi vida pensar en mi madre y recordarla estaría relacionada con la inmensa sensación de no poder respirar y sentir dolor. Chungmei me preguntó “¿qué pasaría si pudieras recordarla desde el puro amor? No pensé que eso fuera posible. Pero ahora, de vez en cuando, soy capaz de sentirlo. No todo el tiempo todavía, ya que no estoy completamente allí todavía, pero ahora he experimentado lo que ella quería decir con eso.

Chungmei ha sido un gran atributo para mi proceso de curación y auto aceptación. Su guía encendió mi sabiduría interior y mi amor incondicional sobre cómo equilibrar mis emociones. Ya no me tengo miedo de mí misma, ni creo que sea demasiado débil por ser más sensible al estímulo que me rodea. Ahora lo veo como un gran aspecto de mí mismo y puedo usarlo mejor para mi propio beneficio.

Recomendaría esto a todos al menos intentarlo una vez. Podría ser el tipo de terapia que no sabía que necesitaba. Espero continuar en este camino de auto-descubrimiento, con el golpe ocasional en tu puerta, Chungmei. 😉

Muchas gracias por todo lo que has hecho por mí hasta ahora.

Gracias por trabajar conmigo estrella maravillosa. ¡Fue un gran viaje inspirador y conmovedor! Lo experimento como enormemente valioso y enriquecedor para trabajar con las almas que quieren poner sus talentos en el mundo. ~ Chungmei Cheng

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If I know what love is it is because of you

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“This is the man I would do anything for: move to a deserted place, quit my job and start a new job and most of all express my love for him and don’t make him do anything he isn’t ready for.” ~ shared by a client of mine.

She asked for my guidance because she wants to embrace love relationships. She has been single for years. Every now and then she goes on a date via Tinder, but these first encounters are more tiring then uplifting to her. She wants to have a relationship with someone who can deal with his emotions, who asks about her life, who listens, who takes, even the heavier storms in life, lightly. Someone who has been positively shaped by his experiences. While she wanted all these she also had to acknowledge her own fears and they way she was holding back during these encounters. She wanted to move forward, show herself more, her real self.

She was definitely ready for a huge positive change. 

Our first meeting was a coaching session and during our second meeting I guided her through her first rebirthing session. At first she was sceptic. “How does this work? I feel happy and I am content with my working and social life. How will rebirthing sessions open me up for love relationships?”

Rebirthing sessions or conscious connected breathing sessions will help you process hidden fear, anger and sadness in the physical and energetic body in order to clear the mind from limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are fed by these destructive emotions. You will process and go through these emotions via movements of the body, showing emotions and letting your voice be heard. With every breathing session you will notice small (and bigger and bigger) changes in your body, mind and soul. The limiting beliefs and physical aches are being replaced by loving positive beliefs about yourself and the world.

After her first rebirthing session she enthusiastically told me that lots of men noticed her and gave her attention. Something within her had shifted and this was the first change she had experienced towards opening herself up for a love relationship. Fantastic!

And there was something about her which made me think of other clients I guide. Every time I have multiple experiences of people sharing the same thoughts, feelings and experiences I feel a strong urge to share it with you, dear reader.

This time I would like to describe a type of client who come to me for guidance:

  • Believing strongly in that everything is temporary which makes throwing away things easy and getting rid of old photos
  • Believing in that everything has a reason
  • Knowing that you can only love with all your heart receiving every person who is related to the man or woman you love with open arms
  • Strongwilled and strong opinions and views on life to live by
  • Thinking limits the whole spectrum of feeling and acting upon what you feel
  • Accepting and/or dealing with loved ones who have strong negative energy

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The healer you have been looking for is your own courage

Whenever I guide sessions I witness so much emotional growth in people. I feel energized and excited to work on next steps in all I do and share on social media.

Let’s share our sensitivity, our vulnerability, because it’s a gift and our strength.

Today a client of mine thanked me for having written a piece on her emotional development. She saw it passing by on the facebook page high sensitivity and intuition. While she was reading it she was struck by recognition: it was about her development! And then the amazing thing happened. She felt empowered.

Shortly after having read the blog they had their neighbours over for a visit and she talked about her emotional growth and mentioned my name and work. She wouldn’t have done that normally as the introverted person she is, but she felt so happy and strong.

The next courageous thing she did was tell her mom about the blog. Her mom wanted to read it and while doing so my client was doing all kinds of stuff to calm her nerves. She was afraid for her mom’s reaction. Her mom was impressed and happy for her. What a relief! For years she has battled her fears, but now she finally surrendered and is working through the fears. My client was so happy with my blog, because for once she didn’t have to explain what she was going through.

She had also passed on the good news about her mental health to her general practitioner who once had to hold her in his arms, because she came over with a panic attack. The general practitioner asked for my name and work. How awesome is that!!

This is one of the aims I’m working on. I want to share my work with mental and physical practitioners working in health care. Slowly but steadily I’m working in growing my network in order to get everyone BREATHING.

And thanks to my lovely and very much appreciated clients I feel the flow of life, my mission and vision getting carried out in an effortless way. Yeah!

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Lifecoaching: as a child I believed in magic

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For like 28 years I thought I only had one massive problem in my life: stuttering. I tried a try-out session with Life Coach Chungmei. It was interesting, she asked questions, I spoke, I did an exercise… And from out of nowhere, I started to cry! I was crying, and surprised and shocked that I was crying. This was really weird for me.

Luckily for me I kept myself busy with creating a burn – out. One year later I succeeded. My second coaching setting was a fact. I set down and she mirrored my non-verbal communication extremely sharp. Subconsciously I acted to be ready for any thing: arms wide, an ‘I am in control look’ in my eyes, and ask something like: so coach ask me a smart question?! Well, instead she told me: Well, you don’t seem ready to open up. After which she imitated my posture and look in my eyes. Do you want to be coached? Right away I felt that she didn’t fall for my act. I felt that one: my head down, arms normal, and after digesting a little bit of my fakeness, I said: yes I am ready.

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What I did to burn my self out was only living in my head, not even feeling my own heart beat. During my third ‘succesful’ study, I burned out. I didn’t understand, and even less did I feel why. Chungmei guided me through this process. Some topics, in random order, we have worked on were:

  1. Why am I a perfectionist?
  2. Why do I train extremely hard?
  3. Why am I always busy?
  4. Why do I stutter?
  5. How come I don’t feel my body?
  6. What caused the burn out ?
  7. Why do I stop breathing when I think longer than 1 minute?

Answers were: I felt I was not good enough, so everything needed to be perfect. I felt a lot of surpressed emotions and had surpressed emotions myself which caused intense stress. My coping mechanism was using my head, and satisfying others and my main man Mr. Society.

This I understood after being lead through different exercises and questions no one ever asked me. With one single question she could make me feel my sadness of being so stressed. Or scared, or….unhappy. Because that’s the overal feeling: I was not happy, and was basically killing myself with thinking, studying and working. Without the burn – out to stop me, I was dead by now.

It may sound a bit extreme, but seriously she saved my life. Thank you for that. Thank you for letting go of everything that didn’t belong to me. For the first time in my life, I feel who I am, what I want to do. I became a better husband, a better person, a better father after being coached intensively by you. With better I mean more me, because that’s all there is right? I believe the best I can be is the closest to who I really am.

Now, that I write this I think of words that could describe the thankfulness that I feel in my heart. Being coached by you and feeling myself was my biggest gift after being born. It was a great pleasure being coached by someone so naturally connected with the Universe. Someone who coached so intuitively, so in the moment.

As a child I believed in magic, felt happiness in playing. Somewhere in high school I started to believe in the world of thoughts, studies, work and society. I am 32 now, and life is magic again.

By Arnold Baldé

Letting go of tears and fears

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Let’s start of this blog with a deep sigh. I feel blessed to be able to bring light to people’s lives. That’s one thing for sure. And now it’s time to write about it. I haven’t done so for a long time, because I was pretty occupied with family life, main life events and work. As of this summer we live in a really nice neighborhood in The Hague.

We enjoy being surrounded by lots of green, all facilities and our daughter’s school close to our house. After almost elf years of working as a coach in living rooms (one-on-one coaching) and on locations in several cities in the Netherlands (workshops & training) I may proudly announce my first separate working and coaching space at home. Let me share with you some of the life stories that has come my way.

When a thirtysomething year old guy told me that he felt ashamed to share certain thoughts and feelings while he was seeing a psychologist I was struck. I exclaimed that it is necessary for his development to start sharing all of his thoughts and feelings. What one gets out of psychological guidance is the amount of ‘you’ one puts in. You need to be willing to work with what you have.

It’s not the psychologist, therapist or other type of mental guidance who will pull out all of your pain and fears. But on another note, it could be helpful to talk to someone who does get you talking about all the things that you are ashamed of. During this session I felt I needed to share some of my experiences guiding highly sensitive man. Sensitive man could go through a phase of doubting their sexuality. Bingo. He had struggled with this topic as well.

But what if you just don’t know what to tell me? Than I could put myself on a repeat spreading the message ‘You need to be willing to work with what you have’, but it won’t bring the client nor me any further during the session. This young lady was sitting on the couch and told me with a big smile that everything was going well. She started her studies, moved to a student apartment and works in catering to maintain herself.

Looking back on the previous session there could still be some emotions blocking her from living freely, but at this point she was smiling. After having asked a few questions about her life the pain came out: carrying a huge load of responsibility for her divorced parents and little sister. Because she cared for all emotions and thoughts of her loved ones she was left out in the whole process. She needed to give herself some loving attention and one way to do this was to start sharing more of her life with her loved ones.

Before people start life coaching with me they haven’t got a clue of how far they can come in terms of feeling secure, confident, happy and cheerful from within. Another life story which moved me deeply was the story of a woman in her late fifties who was still mourning her husband who passed away six yours ago. Up until this point of no return she had taken care of him for years and years after he had a severe accident.

For almost fifteen years she hadn’t felt those little butterflies starting of in the belly and flying up to the head bringing feelings of ‘being in love’. This confused her to the max and brought her to a devastating phase of mourning again, of finally and definitely starting to let go of the man who showed her to love.

More and more stories are coming my way and I embrace them. All these stories turn me into a channel from which I intuitively coach; reflect, react, summarize, feedback, intervene with coaching techniques and share life stories with the intention to reframe thoughts and feelings which are limiting the person to live fully. Again, I feel blessed to work as a life coach helping people to embrace life from their core strength and desire to live.

You cannot heal a lifetime of pain overnight, be patient with yourself, it takes as long as it takes to rebuild yourself.