HSP: listen to the stories of colours

The result of what I painted yesterday during a workshop on “Painting as a pedagogic model in Waldorf education”. I refused to do the assignment as it was presented.

The assignment was to use the three primary colours blue, yellow and red to cover the whole sheet of paper. Afterwards we were supposed to turn these colours into new colours by painting another colour on top of it.

I wanted to keep the red and used a bit of yellow to create a kind of orange in the core of red. The teacher used my painting to explain that this deep strong type of red is an expression of anger. (Anger of Mozes, is how he put it, an example used based on the religious stories told to the children)

He also pointed out how I used blue to enhance the red. Why I behaved as I did was because I wanted to listen to what came out of my brush, my soul.

As he told earlier: painting as educated in Waldorf education is to let the colours speak to your soul. Through the colours the soul is able to express itself. What I truly loved was how connected I felt. I didn’t hear the chitchats around me.

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With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

Aprende a lidiar con la energía negativa

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Las personas altamente sensibles son más propensas a la energía negativa. La energía negativa nos debilita de muchas maneras. De repente nos sentimos borrosos en la cabeza, débiles en las rodillas o nos golpean los calambres estomacales. En la mayoría de las situaciones, también estamos abrumados por la incapacidad de hablar por nosotros mismos. En mi práctica de coaching y renacimiento, he visto pasar a hombres y mujeres que estaban dispuestos a trabajar en esto, señalaron su incapacidad para manejar la energía negativa y querían descubrir de dónde venia esto.

Había un tipo en particular que sufrió hiperventilación después de un arrebato de un cliente. Fue enviado a una casa para arreglar las cosas que su colega no hizo correctamente. El cliente le mostró su decepción, aunque sabía que no era el causante del problema. En el momento en que lo manejó con cuidado, pero la energía llena de decepción y rabia encendida en su camino estuvo girando en su sistema durante días, ¡especialmente en su cabeza!

En su cabeza, fantasearía con escenarios futuros sobre conflictos con su empleador, colegas y clientes.

¿Y qué hacer si está trabajando con un jefe cuyo estado emocional es impredecible y confuso? Las personas altamente sensibles sienten cada cambio en el estado emocional de otras personas. Se sienten alertas cuando alguien entra en una reunión, una bebida o en la tienda de comestibles con un estado emocional que puede describirse como triste, frustrado o simplemente de mal humor. Dependiendo de la situación, tienen ganas de huir o quedarse quietos y esperar el momento adecuado para intervenir. En este caso, cuando se trabaja con un jefe que llega un día súper feliz y al día siguiente, como si la empresa colapsara delante de Sus ojos, ¿qué harías como una persona altamente sensible?

La respuesta a esta pregunta se puede encontrar en el núcleo del “problema”. He escrito un problema entre paréntesis, porque preferiría percibir los “problemas” emocionales / psicológicos como oportunidades para trabajar en el ser emocional de uno. En todas las situaciones anteriores, la energía negativa experimentada se remonta a la infancia de las personas altamente sensibles. Cuando no sabemos cómo lidiar con la energía negativa en situaciones cotidianas de adultos, esto es una señal de que no hemos aprendido a lidiar con diferentes energías negativas en el pasado.

La energía se puede leer como en “emociones”, emociones básicas como la ira y la tristeza.

Podríamos diferenciar estas emociones como decepción, frustración, irritación, luto, odio, angustia y envidia entre muchos más. Estas emociones se consideran negativas y, por lo tanto, me referiré a ellas como tales, pero en mi opinión del desarrollo personal, estas emociones son la puerta de entrada a la libertad emocional.

En la infancia, nuestra relación con nuestros cuidadores influye en la forma en que manejamos las emociones de los demás y de nosotros mismos. Cuando no hemos curado nuestras heridas emocionales, somos torturados consciente o inconscientemente por nuestras reacciones dirigidas por nuestro niño interior herido. El niño interior herido atraerá las experiencias de la vida para crecer emocionalmente. Una persona altamente sensible criada por cuidadores que todavía caminaban con su propio dolor; La ira y la tristeza absorberán automáticamente, estas emociones negativas. No son capaces de experimentar estas emociones separadas de sí mismas. Dependiendo del carácter del niño y la relación con sus cuidadores, se influirá en el desarrollo mental y emocional del niño.

Lo que sucede en la vida adulta es que las personas, cuando están abiertas para el desarrollo personal, comienzan a descubrir la raíz de sus patrones de comportamiento. Ajá, entonces la razón por la que no puedo manejar la decepción es porque he compensado mis inseguridades haciendo el trabajo más sublime que puedo hacer para que mi padre me note. Y caminar con una sensación general de inseguridad acerca de que yo asuma tanta responsabilidad es porque mi madre hizo todo lo posible por mí. Siempre que necesitaba ayuda, ella estaba allí. Quería estar allí, porque sus padres murieron cuando ella era joven. Ella ni siquiera llegó a conocerlos.

He hablado con muchas personas altamente sensibles que viven con las mejores intenciones y haciendo lo mejor que pueden por sus familias, pero con un cuidador que las aleja con una ira inesperada que no tiene nada que ver con ellas, caminan por la vida sintiendo miedo. Solo están paralizados por la ira mal colocada. Y existe este hambre, esta necesidad innata de reconocer quiénes son y este deseo de ser valorado por sus acciones. Valen la pena sentir todas las emociones corriendo por sus venas para que se liberen especialmente de las emociones que pesan.

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2019: a brand new year

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A brand New Year. I’m excited!! I’m looking forward to feel connected whatever I do and where ever I go.

My life consists of guiding people to be the best version of themselves by coaching and rebirthing, parenting our kids together with @arnoldbalde and unwind and recharge myself for everyday life.

The unwinding and recharging part is done by journal writing, meditation, yoga, chakra healing, taiko, dance & sleep :))

I’ve put my pen to digital paper and created and sharpened my focus on the following:

💞 Creative goals

💞 Work/ life balance

💞 Workload: new clients p/m

What get’s you excited?

I invite you to take a peek on my website Orchid of Life: http://www.orchidoflife.nl/home_en/

#lifecoaching #hsp#highsensitivity #rebirthing #breaththerapy #TheHague and beyond

How we enjoy silence and taking it slow

I had the most exquisite Sunday afternoon I could wish for. I visited someone I recently got to know through my work. When I entered her apartment I entered a fairytale. I entered a different era, it was as if I travelled through time. In the middle of the living room I stood still and absorbed the feeling of magic she had created.

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Hmmm, writing this blog drew me into a pause. I tried to describe what I saw, but I just don’t know where to start. I just leave it like this: it was like a fairytale, wanting to turn the page to read how the story continues, to want to be pulled into the magic, just like I wanted to discover every corner of her house, mirroring her soul.

She poured us tea and the following topics past in our conversation:

  • The pull of the fear of death on train tracks, an intercity train passing by and while standing on heights feeling the pull of gravity,
  • The electro-magnetic field of a smartphone; how you can feel it moving into your limbs and how it enters our eyes,
  • How the digital world is taking over everywhere we go and how it annoys us in respect to connecting with other human beings in public areas and stores,
  • How it is so much easier to learn when you hear the word, read the word and see the object,
  • How we as children don’t want to be restricted and yearned for the attention of our parents,
  • How we enjoy silence and taking it slow.

In the middle of the conversation she handed me this amazing book with beautiful drawings and spells in English: The lost Words by Robert Macfarlane and Jackie Morris. Spells to bring back the words that have been long forgotten in children’s minds. And she shared: ‘How often do we get a book in our hands and sit still with it, feel it? In this digital age in which you go from screen to screen.

I feel so much gratitude reliving this magical experience over and over again. I breathed deep.

Snow. Lots and lots of snow.

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Snow. Lots and lots of snow. To me it was quite unexpected. I never check the weather forecast. So this day started with a cancellation of a session and more cancellations followed. I only had one session to guide; someone who lives on walking distance. The rest of the day I spent with my kids. My daughter (on the photo) was thrilled to go outside and play in the snow. My son at the other hand wasn’t at all pleased with the snow landing on his face. I had to protect him by changing the position of the buggy. Can you imagine pushing a buggy in this pile of snow? It was quite an exercise for this mom. I loved watching my daughter run around, scraping snow from cars and making snow balls. I even, in between pushing and pulling the buggy, managed to make some of my own and play with her. When arrived at home I was exhausted.

Note to self: always have enough diapers at home. Especially when a snow storm decided to cross through your city.

Life Coaching: let start breathing consciously

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Can you imagine how relaxed you feel after having breathed consciously for ten minutes? No? Well, than I recommend you to start breathing. It will result in a happier and mindful you. But to think of it, it would be much more efficient if we would breath consciously all the time. How we breath is the result of how mindful we live. When we are doing head-work or busy organizing things you could notice your breathing being superficial and short. At the other hand, when we are cycling, walking in nature or doing some type of other sports we notice a deeper and longer breathing. We feel energized by the amount of oxygen entering our system. So let start breathing consciously!

Playing make believe manifests things more quickly

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How children play is a true inspiration. We, grown-ups, should play more. Many people I speak who are in their forties or in their fifties feel either like a 16-year old or a 25-something. Therefore I am convinced that we shouldn’t refer to ourselves as grown-ups, but instead as big children. Somewhere deep in our hearts we all remain children, but the few are gifted with a child’s mind throughout their lifetime. Call it high sensitivity or highly gifted or better, leave it nameless.

I have the pleasure to bring up our daughter who is nearly five years. When we’re on a playground the playground turns into a pirate ship on sea. Because it’s cold on deck we should gather a whole bunch of branches so we can light it up to warm ourselves. Near the playground there was a skate-area. We climbed up one of the skate hills and with only a drop of her imagination she turned into mama bird and I into baby bird. I broke through my eggshells and she catches a worm for me.

After an hour of playing I felt revived. Imagination brought us anywhere we wanted and with this state of mind planet earth turned into a happy place. She and all children are my true inspiration of how playing make believe manifests things more quickly. I have experienced this on many levels of life up until now, but the most recent experience was having written a couple of blogs on food for Den Haag Direct. I had so much fun talking to owners of dining places and writing about my experiences that thought had crossed my mind to write more on food. I thought: How wonderful it is to be invited to eat and write about my experience.

One month later I was asked on a culinary tasting tour through the Hague’s King’s and Queens headquarters. Fantastic!! I had a sublime afternoon with lovely conversations and good food.