What worries me in these closed off times

Yes, I know my tendency is to spread positive news in my newsletters. That’s my focus, that is what keeps me alive. As well as the hugs I still give and receive from my family and friends. I believe the focus of this world-wide pandemic should be more on how to live a healthy live in stead of spreading fear. What hurts me is when I see my son’s teacher greeting him by giving him an elbow-greet. What’s the use of that? What is the higher purpose in that? And more importantly: what do we teach our children? 

My daughter had some good news for me this morning: “Mom, there is a corona development at school, we are allowed to hang up our jackets on the coat rack! For months we brought our jackets into the classroom and we had to put them on our chairs, because of germs jumping from jackets.”

My thoughts also go out to the people who are suffering other diseases then corona, the people who are out of work and face severe financial problems and the ones who are living alone and were about to start their social life right before this pandemic started. 

And I smile back when I see a neighbour passing his doorstep to enter the pavement with a garbage bag. He is not wearing a mask, I can see his smile. There are people walking right towards me on the pavement and they are not stepping away. With a nod I say “thank you”, I got you man/ woman. Now more than ever I check the energy of the people outside to be notified about when to step away and make room and when it is possible to just walk straight ahead.

My inner smile also awakens when I see elderly walking in supermarkets without a mask. Sadly enough, wearing masks, will be obligatory as of the 1st of December in the Netherlands. And what about a 90 year old who asked her familie members to not wear masks when they’re visiting. We want to LIVE and not die while we are living.

So yeah, that’s my focus: light, love and laughter. It’s crucial for me, because when I expose myself to what happens around me my energy starts leaking. I get angry. Last Saturday I went into the city center in The Hague to pick up an order. I was shocked by seeing people diligently walking on pavements in a certain direction. They were watched and controlled. Do we want to live in this type of society?

Let’s get back to my focus: light, love and laughter. This focus brings me to keep acting out of inspiration. To keep connecting with the people who are open for real authentic connection. Let’s do what is possible and let’s stay healthy by doing what’s right.

In the this talk which I gave on the facebookpage hooggevoeligheid en intuïtie (high sensitivity and intuition in Dutch) I’m speaking in Spanish for the second time live about how I started this page. I sat down to tape this talk to increase my energy level, to live out of inspiration. 

If you would like to comment on the video, please do. Thanks a lot & keep well. 

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei

Be who you are, not who the world wants you to be

Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing: http://www.orchidoflife.nl/home_en/

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Summer holidays are around the corner

How are you doing? I hope this newsletter finds you in a good space and if not, may my words and actions spark hope and joy. On the 20th of July Summer holidays for our kids start. We will kick of these 6 weeks of wandering with a week on a camping site. I’m so looking forward to this! Being in nature and going back to the basics. My kids are in need of that.

Too be honest, I didn’t grow up in a close relationship with nature. I grew up in big cities such as Amsterdam, Rotterdam and The Hague and also lived in villages. The thing was that I grew up in a hard working Chinese mentality environment. The focus was work and earning money and this has definitely shaped me. Especially the first part. Money comes in handy, but that has never been my focus. I believe I did a good thing to honour my talents and put these to work. This has given me a sense of freedom. 

With my youngest starting primary school we are noticing for a second time around that a school environment has the potentiality to kill creativity. Now he has gotten more accustomed to the hours that he is exposed to the group dynamics and energy’s of his classmates his creativity, fantasy and his vigor is back. Although he still needs his downtime right after school. For the past weeks with the warm weather in The Hague I took him to the beach and playgrounds surrounded with trees right after school. This supported him to get in touch with himself. 

As it goes for children I believe us, adults, also thrive when we are free and more in touch with nature. 

Recently I had a session with a client. A mother, an entrepreneur with three (!!) businesses and three children and two of them are twins. Oh my gosh, that’s a lot. She came in because of her depressing thoughts and nightmares. She fantasies about death, wanting to die, wanting to just disappear from earth. The anti-depressants she is taking are not helping. 

From when we started the sessions she decided to take siësta’s on Saturday’s. The session I’m referring to was her third session and she was doing pretty good. She was amazed by the way that she had been feeling the past week. Sunday afternoons were now also booked and arranged for her siësta’s. I’m so glad for her that she is doing better. 

It got to her that adults work the same as children. What she knows from taking care of her children is that when they had a bad night or a short night of sleep the next day they are grumpy, irritated, not listening and in the mode of discussing every passing detail. As opposed to adults they are showing their grumpiness and tired faces. But adults fall back on their survival mechanism: they dive into their work, they exercise, they eat unhealthy stuff. In short they numb themselves. Of course grumpiness can also be a part of reacting out of a lack of sleep, making the people around them feel bad. 

What we need in the core is sleep, good food and soft exercise such as yin yoga and taking a walk for balanced emotional wellbeing. Baths with natural salts also do wonders. 

What do you think? Shall we start taking care of ourselves as we are taking care of our children? My reaction would be: 200% yes. 

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei

Be who you are, not who the world wants you to be

Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing: http://www.orchidoflife.nl/home_en/

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Living a life beyond anxiety and depression

On the 18th of April 2019 I wrote a Dutch blog in which I shared the interview Marie Forleo had with Dr. Kelly Brogan. Last Monday I noticed that this video was taken offline. I was kind of shocked, because her work has been an eye-opener for so many people who want to get off the medicine they are taking for mental health issues. This is the link to her work: https://kellybroganmd.com

Watch the video above from 10.55. I’ve written the words down which she expresses in the following minutes, because I want to share this piece of vital information with my HSP community. Based on my work-experience and my views on life I fully agree with her. There is only one important aspect of her work I’m still researching for myself and how I would like to go about this. 

That is how she get her patients who want to get off the medicines they are taking to commit to a 30 day diet challenge which involves eating red meat. I’ve not been eating red meat since 2015 and I don’t know yet if I would recommend my clients to do so either. But then again Dr. Kelly Brogan also mentions that once people who are in need of help and long for big changes they can start by themselves based on the provided information on her platform. And also people who decided not to integrate red meat in their diets experienced good results.

Below her message starting at 10.55 in the above video: 

Folks who struggle in this way, whether they are captured by mental health system or who struggled with addiction. Or even those who got caught in this netherworld of strange chronic illness; whether is fybromyalgia or multiple chemical sensitivity.

I believe these individuals are highly sensitive people, in the way that Krishna Murti refers to it that it is no sign of health to be well adapted to a profoundly sick society.

Who are these sentinals?

Who are the people who are feeling the grief of the collective?

Who are the people who are feeling all of the ways in which we are misaligned? Wheter it’s going to some purposeless 9-to-5 job, eating processed food, poisening the planet or just being disconnected from a tribe. Who feels this? Who expresses this?

I find that’s the very individuals who are most sensitive to that who get captured and told that: there is nothing to see here. Everything is fine. Something is wrong with you. Your chemistry. You are broken.

Reframing: you have this sensitivity, you have pain that is more deeply felt, but it is the same pain that we all are experiencing, that we all have. It is just that you don’t have the defenses to hide it, suppress it or otherwise dissociate from it that perhaps another person might work like this. ~ Dr. Kelly Brogan

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng
HSP Coach & Rebirther

Be who you are, not who the world wants you to be
Website: Orchid of Life ~ HSP Coaching & Rebirthing

Photo by Hans Jongman

Health: change is possible

End of June last year we moved to our current home. This was such a huge operation with help of the episodes of Marie Kondo on Netflix. Even right after the move we continued deciding upon things we wanted to keep or throw away. It took up all my energy. That’s why I have stopped giving chakra healing for a while. I’m referring to the people I received next to the clients who came for a session. All the while I have continued giving myself chakra healing and to the majority of the clients.

As of yesterday I invited someone I spoke to during one of the school activities of my daughter. Wednesday is my free day and she accepted my invitation to come over with her daughter for a play-date and meanwhile we could talk a bit more. She is suffering two hernia’s and she is only 30 years young. For the past half a year she has experienced several times a fall out of both her legs. Even once when she was on a bicycle. Very dangerous.

Now she is awaiting an injection which will hopefully help to decrease the hernia and the pain. This procedure will only take place because she is too young for the operation that the doctors had in mind. Every day she is in a lot of pain. She has pain meds, but sometimes she needs to skip a day, because otherwise she gets used to the painkiller. The day she came was one of these days. I must say, she is very good at hiding the pain.

Her husband was sceptic towards chakra healing, but she read a bit about it and decided to be up for it. Another development is that her husband and herself are trying to eat vegan for almost 1.5 week. This was her husbands idea after having watched the documentary Gamechangers. He is very honest about his lifestyle. He smokes, drinks coffee and Coca Cola and he knows he is not to complain about his physical health and condition, because he is the one not taking good care of himself. 

They have know each other for 14 years and she never thought she would see this day come. He loves meat. And she comes from a meat and fish eating family. While I was listening to the latest food development story the thought crossed my mind that the timing of the chakra healing offer was just about right!

I lent her our cooking book Heel veel Veg! and tipped her off with the

​​​​​​​documentary Heal on Netflix. 

She will continue to come for chakra healing. With no guarantees, but if you keep your mind, body and soul open, a lot is possible!

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

 

 

Tell your story, share the love

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On the 23nd and 24th of November I participated in a beginners storytelling course by Michael and Terra of www.discstorytelling.com in The Hague. We had a blast!! We did lots of exercises to be able to tell the story we were working on. I believe many of the participants, including myself, surprised themselves by having had the storyteller in them unlocked. 

I met an interesting bunch of internationally orientated people. One guy from Slovenia who is working for the TU Delft where he is guiding students with their start-up ideas and pitches. He thought of using storytelling techniques to enrich the pitches. There was an Indonesian lady who works as a coach & spiritual healer who challenged herself to take a course in English. One lady from Australia with Spanish roots works as a filmer and photographer and wanted to get a boost to promote her work in talks with potential project partners. And so many more…

Their stories enriched my world. 

This year has been the year that I started to get out of the mommy bubble by taking courses. I went to Madrid two weekends in a row to participate in el curso Zen by Suzanne Powell which has definitely put me onto a higher level of consciousness and sharing love. And now I can include a very rich storytelling two-days which has fueled me with fun excercises to develop this skill more and more. 

I must say I feel energized and inspired by the developments I’ve been through. 

For me to take these steps was strongly related to my youngest who will turn three in a couple of months. He is starting to feel more independent and is taking into practise what he has learned under our close parenting views and presence. For him to feel safe and apart from me has been liberating to me. I am happy for him, for myself and for our family and friends. My partner and I have mentioned to each other many times that our boy ignites smiles in the world. He shouldn’t be only smiling to us, but to everyone on his path. Same goes of course for our daughter. 

Let’s do this. Focus on fun, fun, fun and sharing the love we feel. 

Lastly, I definitely recommend Michael and Terra of DISC international storytelling if you want to spicen up the presentation of strategy documents you’re working, sharing your stories related to the product or service you offer or simply because you feel the need to tell a good story amongst family, friends and colleagues. Go get your story out there! ♥️

Take a look at my work as a coach & rebirther for highly sensitive people:
Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing

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HSP: living a creative life, it’s worth the effort

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At the moment I am in the train on my way to Utrecht to give a training on HSP and communicating your bounderies. This gives me time to have a little tête-à-tête with you on this insta-couch and facebook page.

I am so freaking proud of my hubby Arnold. To me he is thé example of a highly sensitive man chasing his ultimate dream. And to some extent we are in this together living our creative life based on our talents. But there are differences. The main difference is that Arnold is most happy when he or someone else puts a camera in front of his face so he can share his take on life. I am most happy when I see people processing their deepest limiting/ destructive emotions.

I’ll take you on a quick tour through his creative journey.

💫 He started out life with three nutrition titles on his name: two bachelors and one master.

💫 He never started a job based on those titles. Instead he ran his capoeira organization for 10 years: a capoeira group and giving all kinds of capoeira workhops to children and adults.

💫 During start-up of his capoeira organization a burn-out took him down. (And still dealing with a continuous headache while pursuing his ultimate dream)

💫 If determination would be a title given out by higher education establishments he would be given this title. While running his capoeira organization he pursued his dream to tell jokes on stage as a comedian. These 4 years were characterized by achievements and setbacks, but in general every step took him closer to be at ease with the most happy, cheerful and light version of himself.

💫 *deep sigh* And now finally he is putting in practice what the comedy world taught him: to simply be himself doing the things in life which gives him the most pleasure and joy. Parallel to this very important aspect he gets paid doing so. Living a highly sensitive creative life is possible. It’s not easy, but it’s gratifying to the max!!

Head over to his Insta @arnoldbalde to see what he is up too.
Like & follow his facebook page to support this crazy and super sensitive goal-orientated creator: https://www.facebook.com/voedinggezondheidleven/

Thanks a lot!

Eat greens and your child will follow

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So this is how we do it. When I do grocery shopping with my kids, this little fellow wants to push his own cart. As you can see it’s filled with lots of greens. That’s how we roll in our kitchen and with our believe that parents can teach their children to eat greens. Our kids are a great example. Of course they have their own taste and preferences, they don’t eat every available vegetable, but they do eat lots.

The trick is to keep on offering the greens, a wide set of differently prepared greens.

This guy eats broccoli, zucchini, paksoi and haricots. Just to name a few. He also eats loads of vegetables like carrots (oké, which child doesn’t eat carrots?), eggplant, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, cabbage, pumpkin, potato, pea, sweet potato and beetroot.

And he loves tomato, which is by the way a fruit, but many people still regard it as a vegetable.

We taught our kids to eat vegetables in 3 simple ways.

  1. We started out by mixing vegetables with white rice or buckwheat. Or it was a smashed potato dish. With these purees we chose to add only one vegetable so they could get used to the taste of the added vegetable. We varied the purees with cooked or steamed vegetables they could eat out of their hands. (around 5 months)
  2. After the puree phase we cooked or steamed the vegetable so they could see, for example, the white rice separate from the vegetable. They used either their hands or a fork or spoon to eat their meal.
  3. We also offered vegetable soups. You could prepare pumpkin soup in such a way that your child can spoon it up himself. If it’s another type of vegetable you can add potato or even sweet potato to thicken it. Adding a bit of coconut flour is also an option. Actually any type of grain or rice is possible to thicken your vegetable soup.

And again: the trick is to keep on offering the greens and veggies.

Another good thing is to set the example: eat loads of greens and veggies right in front of your child’s nose. Children imitate. And while imitating they discover their own taste.

Meatless Mondays

This is an excellent initiative: Meatless Mondays. It’s an international campaign to improve your health and the health of the planet by eating less meat. In our household we eat at most two times a week meat. Actually our food patterns have changed quite a lot in 2011. Below a scrap from the blog ‘Looking back on 2011’. 

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As a part of Arnold’s fysical and emotional development he started to bake his own bread. After a visit to a mesoloog; someone who practices the art of identifying what nutrients the body needs, lacks or is allergic to. He needed to avoid some nutrients so we started to do more grocery shopping at the organic food stores. So besides white rice, potatoes, pasta we added quinoa, pasta made from spelt, pancakes made from spelt, buckwheat, couscous, corn, taro, cassava and a whole range of pulses. In 2008 I promised my grandfather to avoid the deep frozen fish from the supermarkets. In 2009 he passed away. In 2010 our daughter was born. And halfway through 2011 I decided to definitely switch to super fresh fish: keeping my promise. Ever since we buy our fish in Scheveningen or at the Hague market. With regards to meat; we started eating more organic meat. There is no definite switch from my side and by exception I eat non-organic meat served by restaurants, family or friends.

The Beautiful Truth

A troubled 15-year-old boy attempting to cope with the recent death of his mother sets out to research Dr. Max Gerson’s claims of a diet that can cure cancer as his first assignment for home-schooling in this documentary from filmmaker Steve Kroschel (Avalanche, Dying to Have Known). Garrett is a boy who has always been close to nature. He lives on a reserve with a menagerie of orphaned animals, and over the years he’s become especially sensitive to the nutritional needs of the diet-sensitive animals he’s charged with caring for. When Garrett’s mother suffers a tragic and untimely death, the boy falls into a dangerous downward spiral and nearly flunks out of school. Increasingly concerned for Garrett’s well-being and determined to strengthen their bond despite the many challenges on the horizon, his father makes the decision to begin home-schooling the distressed teen. Garrett’s first assignment: study a controversial book written by Dr. Max Gerson, a physician who claims to have discovered a diet that’s capable of curing cancer. Is Dr. Gerson’s therapy truly the legitimate, alternative cure it appears to be? In order to find out the truth behind this long-suppressed treatment, Garrett interviews not only Dr. Gerson’s family members, but various doctors, skeptics, and cancer patients as well. His studies completed and his findings revelatory, Garrett now sets out to tell the entire world about The Gerson Miracle.