Rebirthing: how ego’s cunningness gets in the way

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Just finished an intense rebirthing session. There was an enormous breakthrough. Client said: “Within 15 minutes I’m on that air mattras breathing, because if I don’t the tension will accumulate and fear will make me sit on the couch longer, avoiding the confrontation.” And so the client did, even within 5 minutes. Those breakthroughs give me so much energy! I’m freakin’ proud that people are willingly moving/ breathing through their fears and are learning to let go. It’s a huge challenge to let go.

Ego’s cunningness get’s in the way. It shows itself when crossing the legs, making fists or reaching for the head to pull your own hair telling yourself that this feels better. No, it won’t make you feel better when you go against that tension that wants to be expressed by the body. Letting go requires to embrace every physical expression as it comes. Not to twist it or break the flow if it. Just how it comes.

Are you interested in a coaching & rebirthing session? Please visit this link for more information about booking an introduction session. 

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Channeling healing energy from the universe

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At the moment I’m already three weeks into giving chakra healing. It’s amazing. It has renewed my life in several ways. For example in a very practical way. Last weekend we had some of my clients over in the morning for chakra healing. It was so nice to see how my clients interacted with my familie in such a light and loving way.

Chakra Healing has brought light and love in my daily life in a way which blended in completely in how I was living before. Only now I’m also consciously meditating once a day to keep my healing capacity active to heal others.

I’m using the term “chakra healing”, because people understand me in this way. Actually I learned it as “el toque zen” from Suzanne Powell. In this blog you can get an impression of how I experienced her course “el curso Zen”. 

I’ve already given Chakra Healing like 50 times, but I haven’t continued reading in the books of Suzanne Powell. Daily working and parenting life consumes me in a way that I don’t have space and energy to read. Which I absolutely love to do. But alas, time will come and it’s all about focus. I believe my curiosity killed the cat, I just wanted to experience Chakra Healing.

After two weeks of practising it I felt a chakra turning in circles for the first time in my life. Kabaaam, that was it. From then onwards I knew what I was doing. I am channeling healing energy from the universe to stimulate the turning of the chakra’s, because in a healthy physical and emotional body the chakra’s are turning in circles.

The chakra adventure continues and I will keep you updated…

Warm autumn regards from The Hague,

Chungmei

HSP & Animals: let the passion guide you

Thanks to my work I meet lots and lots of remarkable people. For instance this lady I met during a workshop emotion management for highly sensitive people. She attended the workshop because many people said to her she is highly sensitive. She wasn’t sure, she needed some acknowledgement about the sensitive person she is.

Fueled by the personal stories shared she opened up. She has worked as a clinical psychologist, but from a young age she wanted to work with animals. Every time she felt offbeat her mom put her in a meadow close to their horse. Their horse didn’t want to come close because of how she felt. It took some time to unwind, but every time she did feel at ease and happy again the horse would come closer to seek for physical contact.

For some time now she has embarked on a journey she is wildly passionate about. Now at the age of 35 she is studying to be a veterinarian in Belgium. When she was around 19 she tried several times to start this study in the Netherlands, but everytime she was rejected based on random selection. Another fun detail; her brother who is 32 is also studying to be a vet.

From her point of view everyone has a passion. Even if you don’t know what your passion is, it’s out there somewhere to grab you when you are ready to see, feel and embrace it fully. I wholeheartedly agree with her.

Amazing how something or someone you’re passionate about keeps guiding you in the right direction.

Here is another challenge: letting go of what you know and what feels familiar to dive in and surround yourself with the feelings and thoughts that feeds and lifts your soul.

Let your soul guide you, where ever you are in life. ♥️

Warm regards,
Chungmei
HSP Coach & Rebirther
Website: Orchid of Life 

Release your old, false identity

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I received the following text of someone I rebirth and is going through the darkest places within herself. She showed her gratitude for taking her hand and guiding her towards her actual rebirth, embracing her light. She is a wonderful, bright and strong willed woman. When she speaks I am in total awe of the images she presents and her choice of words.

Whenever a word is overused, it is most likely being misused, and over time, it begins to lose its meaningfulness. For example, we often refer to a fleeting feeling of depression or a period of confusion, as a dark night of the soul, but neither of these things qualifies as such. A dark night of the soul is a very specific experience that some people encounter on their spiritual journeys. There are people who never encounter a dark night of the soul, but others must endure this as part of the process of breaking through to the dawn of higher consciousness. 

The dark night of the soul invites us to fully recognize the confines of our egos’ identity. We may feel as if we are trapped in a prison that affords us no access to light or the outside. We are coming from a place of higher knowing, and we may have spent a lot of time and energy reaching toward the light of higher consciousness. This is why the dark night has such a quality of despair: We are suddenly shut off from what we thought we had realized and the emotional pain is very real. We may even begin to feel that it was all an illusion and that we are lost forever in this darkness.

The more we struggle, the darker things get, until finally we surrender to our not knowing what to do, how to think, where to turn. It is from this place of losing our sense of ourselves as in control that the ego begins to crack or soften and the possibility of light entering becomes real.

Some of us will have to endure this process only once in our lives, while others may have to go through it many times. The great revelation of the dark night is the releasing of our old, false identity. We finally give up believing in this false self and thus become capable of owning and embracing the light.

For more about my work and booking a session, see my website: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling 

HSP: living a creative life, it’s worth the effort

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At the moment I am in the train on my way to Utrecht to give a training on HSP and communicating your bounderies. This gives me time to have a little tête-à-tête with you on this insta-couch and facebook page.

I am so freaking proud of my hubby Arnold. To me he is thé example of a highly sensitive man chasing his ultimate dream. And to some extent we are in this together living our creative life based on our talents. But there are differences. The main difference is that Arnold is most happy when he or someone else puts a camera in front of his face so he can share his take on life. I am most happy when I see people processing their deepest limiting/ destructive emotions.

I’ll take you on a quick tour through his creative journey.

💫 He started out life with three nutrition titles on his name: two bachelors and one master.

💫 He never started a job based on those titles. Instead he ran his capoeira organization for 10 years: a capoeira group and giving all kinds of capoeira workhops to children and adults.

💫 During start-up of his capoeira organization a burn-out took him down. (And still dealing with a continuous headache while pursuing his ultimate dream)

💫 If determination would be a title given out by higher education establishments he would be given this title. While running his capoeira organization he pursued his dream to tell jokes on stage as a comedian. These 4 years were characterized by achievements and setbacks, but in general every step took him closer to be at ease with the most happy, cheerful and light version of himself.

💫 *deep sigh* And now finally he is putting in practice what the comedy world taught him: to simply be himself doing the things in life which gives him the most pleasure and joy. Parallel to this very important aspect he gets paid doing so. Living a highly sensitive creative life is possible. It’s not easy, but it’s gratifying to the max!!

Head over to his Insta @arnoldbalde to see what he is up too.
Like & follow his facebook page to support this crazy and super sensitive goal-orientated creator: https://www.facebook.com/voedinggezondheidleven/

Thanks a lot!

HSP: working towards your ultimate dream

How does it feel like when you are told by many people you have an enormous talent, but no matter how hard you try you can’t feel it yourself.

That’s harsh.

That’s aweful.

All effort feels meaningless.

That’s when a highly sensitive girl grows up with no space to show her tears, her sadness ánd her enthusiasm.

Writing this I have one particular beautiful and amazing highly sensitive woman in mind. She has a talent for speaking. When she starts telling her stories I am in absolute awe. She also gets me laughing out loud. Her stories are vivid and full of contrasts.

But there is another part to her story. She knows and feels that she can be full of enthusiasm and share this with everyone around her. But at the other side of the coin there is this extreme apathy and self-hate. She doesn’t feel like getting up nor move towards the things she wants to achieve in life.

While these opposite emotions are whirling inside of her.

She does know how to feed herself in a healthy way and continues to do so. 
She also refuses to take antidepressants because she wants to feel and process all the present emotions. 

These two daily actions show the self-love she isn’t feeling, these actions are directed by the mind. Her mind has superpowers. It’s strong. It’s how she has survived all the past years full of contradictory emotions.

During our coaching & rebirthing trajectory she is opening up and embracing the discomforting physical stress. The physical stress has been kept prisoned in her body and mind for so many years. It’s time to connect to the physical stress and release the pain through the physical body, tears and the sound of her soul. 

We are working towards her ultimate dream: being an inspirational speaker. And we’re getting closer, breath by breath.

Life is full of contrasts. When mouths are being shut, these mouths will find a way to express their true talent.

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HSP Coaching: get to know your inner life

Recently I spoke to a highly sensitive lady and she said: ‘Don’t tell me to do a daily meditation or mindfulness. This doesn’t work for me. I have tried so many different forms of personal development. Now I want to feel a change.’

What she first needed was to understand how she came to see herself as a highly sensitive introvert and how essential it was for her to go her own way instead of searching for her mother’s approval and understanding. (Almost on a daily basis)

As a kid she grew up with a little sister who turned into a troublemaker. (And not for no reason) She was the bigger sister and did all she could to be of no trouble at all to her mother. When they spoke they mostly spoke about their family situation. Her innerlife was intertwined with her mom’s innerlife. She grew up by keeping her mouth shut about how she felt. Instead she focussed on her schoolwork.

She could’t be more motivated because after the introduction session she started practising immediately. Instead of discussing her inner life with her mom she talked to her boyfriend and a good friend. She said: ‘It wasn’t as satisfying as talking to my mom, because she is the one who understands me best. But I know it’s good for me. I don’t want to depend on her opinion.’

She felt a change. She felt stronger from within, but also dealt with guilt. It was still kind of awkward, but she was still motivated.

And no, I won’t tell her to do meditation if that doesn’t work for her. What works for her was putting her new found insights about herself into practice.

If this sounds like a I-want-to-feel-better-about-myself-plan to you, just send me an e-mail to book your introduction session or follow-up session.

Warm regards,

Chungmei: orchidoflife@gmail.com

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