Thank you for having been in my life

This week, out of nowhere, the following phrase popped up: Grown-ups who for whatever reason were quiet as a kid: write your BOOK, you have so much to share with the world. Same goes for me. I will do so when the time is ripe or when I feel I can grasp that momentum.

For now I would like to share tiny stories with you.

This week is Spring holidays and most of the week I’m with my kids doing all kinds of fun stuff. Work is also a part of this week. Mourning as well ánd processing trauma’s. But let’s live the unwinding and recharging part first. I’m a great fan of Mary Poppins and psyched about the new release. I’ve seen the original version a coupe of times with my daughter which absolutely dazzled her imagination. The sequel was amazingly magical. We’ve seen it together with a friend of hers.

Parallel to this my thoughts go to my uncle who is dying. He finds himself in the last stage. Last weekend I went up and down two times to where he resides. During the first visit I only meditated for him. I wanted to support him with words, but I couldn’t.

The second trip was spontaneous, because suddenly I realized what I wanted to share with him to support his passing. And this was damn hard. It was hard to see him suffer. For the first five minutes I held his arm and I couldn’t say a thing. A very nice lady, a volunteer came in the room and said she was there for me if I needed her.

I made use of this opportunity and sat down with her for a few minutes in the hallway. She said: “It’s normal. It’s a lot to take in and when you get emotional, words leave.”

When I went back in I knew exactly what to say. This was the first time that I experienced the passing of a loved one in such a conscious way. I was able to say goodbye in my own way. Next to the words I shared I meditated and communicated with him through the images of memories I have of him. More and more details appeared in the images and the inner smile I felt appeared on my face. When I left I told him I would go home and that he would too.

He passed away on Wednesday 27th of March at 7.02am. Thank you for having been in my life dear uncle.

Photo by @ouxu

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Apertura a una relación de amor

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Hoy tuve un cliente que compartió: “Mi gerente y muchos colegas se han dado cuenta de que he cambiado drásticamente en un año. Todo bueno y positivo. Estoy confiado. Sé lo que quiero y definitivamente sé lo que no quiero. Además, les comunico esto.

Además, estoy buscando un nuevo trabajo en la misma empresa. Una con menos presión laboral y responsabilidad para que pueda centrarme en mis estudios. Estoy creando espacio para mí mismo. Siento una abundancia de libertad, espacio y felicidad en mí mismo. Esto también tiene que ver con romper con las amistades / personas que me pidieron demasiado. Ahora me estoy enfocando en las personas que me dan energía, que me hacen reír “.

¡¡Sí!! Estoy tan feliz por ella. Hemos estado trabajando para equilibrar la energía masculina y femenina dentro de ella. Todas sus decisiones la ayudarán a vivir más de su energía femenina. Ella entró con un objetivo de amor personal: abrirse a una relación de amor.

Las sesiones se centraron en comunicar las críticas, el procesamiento de la tristeza, la ira y el miedo arraigados en la relación con sus padres y su hermana y los problemas relacionados con el trabajo. Ahora ha llegado el momento de centrarse en su objetivo personal inicial ♥ ️

Estoy deseando trabajar con ella. Dejando entrar el amor!

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Ella destruye todo lo bueno

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Muchas, muchas historias conmovedoras vienen a mi practica de coaching & rebirthing. Por ejemplo, esta historia sobre una joven de unos treinta años que entró por primera vez. Compartiendo conmigo esas cosas horribles que le siguen sucediendo.

Y ahora su corazón se derrumbó otra vez, porque ella destruye todo lo bueno. Ella no fue capaz de mantener a un buen hombre. Tenía miedo e inconscientemente lo estaba alejando. Desde el momento en que la confrontó con su comportamiento, ella se despertó y se arrepintió de su actitud cerrada.

Definitivamente le gustaba él. Compartieron risas, buenas conversaciones y mucho más. ¿Por qué ella lo estaba alejando? Durante esta sesión salieron a la superficie muchos lotes. Había un fuerte mecanismo auto-destructivo dentro de su sistema, alimentado por la baja autoestima.

A pesar de que ella repitió que todo había terminado con este hombre, se abrió para recibir mis comentarios. Lo que percibí fue su comportamiento amoroso, fue una pausa, no fue un fuerte “no-no-no-quiera-estar-contigo-nunca-mas”. Ambos estaban en el dolor.

Después de la sesión, ella me devolvió que habían tenido buenas conversaciones. Sentía que aún no había terminado y que compartió mi resumen de la sesión y hablaron sobre el contenido. Fantástico. Me sentí muy orgulloso de ella. Ella dio la vuelta a su “fe”.

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My 10 Year Challenge 2009/2019

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2009/2019 ♥️ 

In 2009 I was one year into my fulltime coaching practice. During fall that year I got pregnant and @arnoldbalde got into a burnout. We were together for 2 years and after two years of mourning about my father and grandfather we found ourselves in another huge challenge. 

We took the challenge. It has been hard, but the unconditional love we feel for each other has gotten us through these years. However it’s almost unimaginable, but we did laugh a lot. We cried and laughed a lot. 

We have received two beautiful human beings in our lives. (2010 & 2016) We are surrounded by beautiful people. We are greatful. The spiritual and emotional growth continues… 

Now, from the perspective of unconditional love we have reached the highest of high. Letting go of all pain: sadness, anger and fear that was in between us. The path continues. We strive for a loving life in which we both are given the freedom to grow into the souls we are. 

I thank you @arnoldbalde for the woman I am today. From now onwards I ask for what I need to continue growing into the person I am. 

#10yearchallenge #soul #soulmates #unconditionallove ♥️

Opening up for a love relationship

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Today I had a client in who shared: “My manager and many colleagues have noticed that I have changed drastically within a year. All good and positive. I am confident. I know what I want and I definitely know what I don’t want. Moreover, I communicate this.

Furthermore I am looking out for a new job in the same company. One with less work pressure and responsibility so I can focus on my studies. I am creating space for myself. I feel an abundance of freedom, space and happiness in myself. This also has to do with breaking up with friendships/ people who asked too much of me. Now I am focusing on the people who give me energy, who make me laugh.”

Yeah!! I am so happy for her. We have been working on balancing the male and female energy within her. All her decisions will help her to live more from her female energy. She came in with a personal love goal: opening up for a love relationship.

The sessions were focused on communicating bounderies, processing sadness, anger and fear rooted in the relationship with her parents and sister and work related issues. Now the time has finally come to focus on her initial personal goal ♥️

I am looking forward to work with her. Letting love in!

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

She destroys everything good

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Many, many heartwarming stories come my way. For instance this story about a young lady in her thirties who came in for the first time. Sharing with me that awful things keep happening to her.

And now her heart was fallen apart again, because she destroys everyting good. She wasn’t able to keep a good man. She was afraid and unconsciously she was pushing him away. From the moment he confronted her with her behaviour she woke up and regretted her closed of attitude.

She definitely liked him. They shared laughs, good conversations and much more. Why was she pushing him away? During this session lots came to the surface. There was a strong self-destructive mechanism within her system fueled by low self-esteem and self-value.

Even though she repeated that it was over with this man she opened herself for my feedback. What I perceived was his loving behaviour, it was a time-out, it wasn’t a strong “no-don’t-want-to-be-with-you-ever-again”. They were both in pain.

After the session she gave back to me that they had good conversations, that she felt it wasn’t over yet and that she shared my summary of the session and they talked about the content. Fantastic. I felt so proud of her. She turned around her “faith”.

#love #communication #relationships #hsp #highsensitivity #lifecoaching #TheHague and beyond

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If I know what love is it is because of you

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“This is the man I would do anything for: move to a deserted place, quit my job and start a new job and most of all express my love for him and don’t make him do anything he isn’t ready for.” ~ shared by a client of mine.

She asked for my guidance because she wants to embrace love relationships. She has been single for years. Every now and then she goes on a date via Tinder, but these first encounters are more tiring then uplifting to her. She wants to have a relationship with someone who can deal with his emotions, who asks about her life, who listens, who takes, even the heavier storms in life, lightly. Someone who has been positively shaped by his experiences. While she wanted all these she also had to acknowledge her own fears and they way she was holding back during these encounters. She wanted to move forward, show herself more, her real self.

She was definitely ready for a huge positive change. 

Our first meeting was a coaching session and during our second meeting I guided her through her first rebirthing session. At first she was sceptic. “How does this work? I feel happy and I am content with my working and social life. How will rebirthing sessions open me up for love relationships?”

Rebirthing sessions or conscious connected breathing sessions will help you process hidden fear, anger and sadness in the physical and energetic body in order to clear the mind from limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are fed by these destructive emotions. You will process and go through these emotions via movements of the body, showing emotions and letting your voice be heard. With every breathing session you will notice small (and bigger and bigger) changes in your body, mind and soul. The limiting beliefs and physical aches are being replaced by loving positive beliefs about yourself and the world.

After her first rebirthing session she enthusiastically told me that lots of men noticed her and gave her attention. Something within her had shifted and this was the first change she had experienced towards opening herself up for a love relationship. Fantastic!

And there was something about her which made me think of other clients I guide. Every time I have multiple experiences of people sharing the same thoughts, feelings and experiences I feel a strong urge to share it with you, dear reader.

This time I would like to describe a type of client who come to me for guidance:

  • Believing strongly in that everything is temporary which makes throwing away things easy and getting rid of old photos
  • Believing in that everything has a reason
  • Knowing that you can only love with all your heart receiving every person who is related to the man or woman you love with open arms
  • Strongwilled and strong opinions and views on life to live by
  • Thinking limits the whole spectrum of feeling and acting upon what you feel
  • Accepting and/or dealing with loved ones who have strong negative energy

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