Rebirthing: the body will never lie

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It’s amazing that an introduction of only 15 minutes to the conscious connected breathing gives me more information about someone’s true health than talking for an hour. 

Last week I spoke to a young lady in her thirties. For half a year now she is working within a governmental organization. When she was a few months in she noticed an extreme tiredness. As of December last year she got familiar with high sensitivity and felt embraced by everything she read. Her first session with me took her further into her emotional journey. 

First of all, as long as she remembers, she feels different compared to others. Now, forming part of a group of trainees who are guided to embark on managerial positions within the government, she feels lonely and has the tendency to hide. Why? 

  • Because she prefers to work in the quiet rooms;
  • The canteen is too busy for her, she rather walks outside;
  • She doesn’t drink alcohol which excludes her from the weekly informal meetings;
  • Colleagues are gossiping and judging about her way of being.

In short: she finds it hard to connect and mingle while the world around her is noisy, demanding and full of expectations. 

During the coaching I shared many stories which helped her to feel affirmed in who she is. She is not strange. She is a feeling being. We will work towards embracing her high sensitivity and how she can find ways to feel more connected with her surroundings.

After our talk I guided her through 15 minutes of conscious connected breathing. By feeling the heaviness and tension in her arms during the breathing process she was moved to share one of her main life events. During a funeral at the age of 14 she wasn’t able to move her arm to eat soup. Since then she developed a fear around her arm not functioning.

This was a psycho somatic experience which wasn’t dealt with properly. At the moment she isn’t consciously feeling the underlying emotions of her arm falling out in certain situations. During our coaching & rebirthing trajectory we will also work through this trauma. 

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

Do you long for positive developments in your life?

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Depression, panic attacks and not sleeping? Breathe.

Depression. Panic attacks. Not sleeping. Some of the clients I guide struggle with these symptoms.

I’m guiding a highly sensitive lady who has been thinking she is depressed for around 10 years. Off and on she was on medication. She has a degree in clinical psychology, but at the moment working in communication. The human psyche, spirituality and healing has her interest. Especially because she wants to feel better for so long and is now discovering how sensitive she really is.

For the past 4 years she is on her path of healing and is not taking medicine. All her loved ones support her, but they are inclined to regular health care and on her lowest points they would recommend her to start medicine again. Even though she hasn’t full emotional support of her loved ones she had faith and courage to continue this path. I am impressed, because now 25 coaching & rebirthing sessions in I got to know her fears fully. They are scary, dark and heavy.

During her 25th rebirthing session she faced and connected with a severe bodily tension several times. Before connecting she was more aware of the phases she had to go through:

  1. Tension pulled back her head which straigthened her neck
  2. Yawning
  3. And finally connecting with tension which also caused physical pain

She has a very high physical pain threshold. Even though she felt pain she thought she could continue breathing in stage 3 for maybe half an hour longer. She is learning how to cut herself some slack, give in and surrender. Surrender to the pain that she has been holding onto for so long.

Emotionally she has been disconnected from this tension and pain for decades. It stems from her childhood. The only way to release the tension was to make sounds in stead of crying. Her healing process is also showing her to embrace sadness and cry longer than she was used to doing.

After her 25th rebirthing session she wrote me the following:

Client: “You don’t know half how grateful I am to you. You let me experience and feel light again on the deepest layers of my being.”

Client was/ is struggling with the following:

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the mind is always occupied and thinking

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the body is continuous living in a state of stress

🌿 Breathing on a daily basis is superficial

🌿 Not being able to sleep and not sleeping enough hours per night

While she is struggling on a daily basis the amount of willpower she has keeps her working and doing all kinds of courses in personal development. How does she do this? I am convinced it’s her willpower, faith and trust.

What the client said about trust: “These breathing sessions have given me trust that I will get better over time. I am able to sit with the dark cloud, the heaviness and I know it will pass by. Parallel to this I feel lighter, a weight has fallen off my shoulders and there is more room for positive thoughts. I am on the right path.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

For more on my work, please hop on my website:
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La sesión de introducción

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La sesión de introducción dura una hora y media. Deja que el dolor aflore para que la alegría pueda reemplazarlo. Ese es el trabajo que guío durante las sesiones. He estudiado diferentes técnicas de coaching para guiar los cambios mentales y emocionales. He llegado al lugar donde el propósito de mi alma y las personas que resuenan con mi trabajo se han unido. Personas de todas las edades.

Desde 2004 mi visión y mi misión han sido las mismas. Estoy aquí para guiar a las personas, a escuchar el llamado de sus corazones y almas para que puedan actuar sobre esto. Mi misión es ayudar a estas personas a liberar el dolor que llevan dentro para que pueda ser reemplazado por la alegría alimentada por compartir sus talentos y cualidades innatas. Me especialicé en guiar a las personas altamente sensibles hacia una vida positiva, saludable y satisfactoria.

Puede pedirme orientación sobre los siguientes temas: carrera, equilibrio trabajo / vida, miedo al fracaso, perfeccionismo, crítica interna, conflictos emocionales en el amor, relaciones familiares y profesionales, duelo, divorcio, crianza de niños altamente sensibles, identidad, Diferencias culturales, emigración, amistad, agotamiento, estrés, problemas de concentración y sentido de la vida.

Método de trabajo

  • Correo electrónico y / o contacto a través del teléfono: chungmei@orchidoflife.nl, +31642804038
  • Cita de confirmación vía correo electrónico incluyendo detalles de pago.
  • Sesión (s) de pago a través de Digital Factuur: cuenta bancaria o tarjeta de crédito.
  • Realización de la sesión: práctica de coaching en La Haya en Países Bajos o Skype/ Facetime
  • Breve resumen de la sesión vía e-mail.
  • Frecuencia: en co-creación con el cliente.

Haga clic aquí para echar un vistazo en mi sitio web Orchid of Life y ponte en contacto para cualquiera pregunta o duda. 

2019: a brand new year

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A brand New Year. I’m excited!! I’m looking forward to feel connected whatever I do and where ever I go.

My life consists of guiding people to be the best version of themselves by coaching and rebirthing, parenting our kids together with @arnoldbalde and unwind and recharge myself for everyday life.

The unwinding and recharging part is done by journal writing, meditation, yoga, chakra healing, taiko, dance & sleep :))

I’ve put my pen to digital paper and created and sharpened my focus on the following:

💞 Creative goals

💞 Work/ life balance

💞 Workload: new clients p/m

What get’s you excited?

I invite you to take a peek on my website Orchid of Life: http://www.orchidoflife.nl/home_en/

#lifecoaching #hsp#highsensitivity #rebirthing #breaththerapy #TheHague and beyond

If I know what love is it is because of you

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“This is the man I would do anything for: move to a deserted place, quit my job and start a new job and most of all express my love for him and don’t make him do anything he isn’t ready for.” ~ shared by a client of mine.

She asked for my guidance because she wants to embrace love relationships. She has been single for years. Every now and then she goes on a date via Tinder, but these first encounters are more tiring then uplifting to her. She wants to have a relationship with someone who can deal with his emotions, who asks about her life, who listens, who takes, even the heavier storms in life, lightly. Someone who has been positively shaped by his experiences. While she wanted all these she also had to acknowledge her own fears and they way she was holding back during these encounters. She wanted to move forward, show herself more, her real self.

She was definitely ready for a huge positive change. 

Our first meeting was a coaching session and during our second meeting I guided her through her first rebirthing session. At first she was sceptic. “How does this work? I feel happy and I am content with my working and social life. How will rebirthing sessions open me up for love relationships?”

Rebirthing sessions or conscious connected breathing sessions will help you process hidden fear, anger and sadness in the physical and energetic body in order to clear the mind from limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are fed by these destructive emotions. You will process and go through these emotions via movements of the body, showing emotions and letting your voice be heard. With every breathing session you will notice small (and bigger and bigger) changes in your body, mind and soul. The limiting beliefs and physical aches are being replaced by loving positive beliefs about yourself and the world.

After her first rebirthing session she enthusiastically told me that lots of men noticed her and gave her attention. Something within her had shifted and this was the first change she had experienced towards opening herself up for a love relationship. Fantastic!

And there was something about her which made me think of other clients I guide. Every time I have multiple experiences of people sharing the same thoughts, feelings and experiences I feel a strong urge to share it with you, dear reader.

This time I would like to describe a type of client who come to me for guidance:

  • Believing strongly in that everything is temporary which makes throwing away things easy and getting rid of old photos
  • Believing in that everything has a reason
  • Knowing that you can only love with all your heart receiving every person who is related to the man or woman you love with open arms
  • Strongwilled and strong opinions and views on life to live by
  • Thinking limits the whole spectrum of feeling and acting upon what you feel
  • Accepting and/or dealing with loved ones who have strong negative energy

Get to know my work & book your session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and beyond 

HSP & Animals: let the passion guide you

Thanks to my work I meet lots and lots of remarkable people. For instance this lady I met during a workshop emotion management for highly sensitive people. She attended the workshop because many people said to her she is highly sensitive. She wasn’t sure, she needed some acknowledgement about the sensitive person she is.

Fueled by the personal stories shared she opened up. She has worked as a clinical psychologist, but from a young age she wanted to work with animals. Every time she felt offbeat her mom put her in a meadow close to their horse. Their horse didn’t want to come close because of how she felt. It took some time to unwind, but every time she did feel at ease and happy again the horse would come closer to seek for physical contact.

For some time now she has embarked on a journey she is wildly passionate about. Now at the age of 35 she is studying to be a veterinarian in Belgium. When she was around 19 she tried several times to start this study in the Netherlands, but everytime she was rejected based on random selection. Another fun detail; her brother who is 32 is also studying to be a vet.

From her point of view everyone has a passion. Even if you don’t know what your passion is, it’s out there somewhere to grab you when you are ready to see, feel and embrace it fully. I wholeheartedly agree with her.

Amazing how something or someone you’re passionate about keeps guiding you in the right direction.

Here is another challenge: letting go of what you know and what feels familiar to dive in and surround yourself with the feelings and thoughts that feeds and lifts your soul.

Let your soul guide you, where ever you are in life. ♥️

Warm regards,
Chungmei
HSP Coach & Rebirther
Website: Orchid of Life 

HSP: set yourself free from self-criticism

What I’ve noticed is that self-criticism is something you can hide for a long time. You can manage in the world, you can work your way to the top (your top) and everyone believes and perceives you as a person who has it all and who has nothing to worry about. False!

Self-criticism goes hand in hand with shame and lots of it. When you constantly believe you’re not doing it right, you are dumb or look terrible you work hard to not show anything of this to the people around you. Shame is an emotion which keeps you from sharing your true feelings and thoughts. You keep up this attitude in life which saves you of showing your vulnerability. You keep up your mask.

People who criticise themselves are ambitious and hard workers. They don’t feel their mental, emotional and physical bounderies. They are superman or woman. They fail (especially in their own eyes), they climb up, they disappoint themselves and this circle continues. Even though milestones are achieved, they don’t feel proud of themselves.

And this my friend is such a waste. When I speak of this I have a part of the highly sensitive people in mind whom I coach & rebirth. They are the sweetest, most loving and intelligent souls, but they don’t receive themselves as such.

Let’s turn this around. You are much more than than how that ugly and awful voice thinks you are and speaks to you. If this piece of writing resonates with you feel free to contact me and let’s start a journey which will set you free from self-criticism.

Warm regards,

Chungmei