When I give lectures on high sensitivity I have been asked many times if I am a highly sensitive person. Yes, I am! Below you’ll get an impression of how the characteristics of highly sensitive people have played out in different areas of my life.
The characteristics of highly sensitive people:
1. Have great imagination
Well yes, I affirm that I have imagination, but to a certain level. What I mean by this is that I am able to visualise, for example, my business goals or when I’m preparing for lectures or training. I do find I have imagination when I play with my kids and make up stories out of thin air. But a great imagination would be when I look at my youngest and he is able to picture and fantasise a whole story about dinosaurs or rescuing animals as a fire men in our house.
2. Have great intellectual abilities
I do have intellectual abilities, but the way I learn is on a kinaesthetic level which means that I learn by doing in stead of by listening, “heated” intellectual interaction/ discussions and reading about theories. I have a strong need to put in practice bits and pieces of information.
3. Are creative
I am creative when it comes to cooking, furnishing my house, sharing information about high sensitivity on social media, how I guide the coaching and rebirthing sessions, wrapping presents, dancing and playing with the kids.
4. Have a curious mind
I have a curious and open mind. Curiosity finds his way through chitchats with strangers in supermarkets, in other public areas. Wherever I am and where people are.
5. Are hard workers
I am a hard worker, but I believe this is more due to my cultural background (Chinese) than my highly sensitive being.
6. Are good problem solvers
Yes, I like to solve problems. Especially organisational problems between work and parenthood. I see what needs to be done and I communicate with third-parties to reschedule or ask for help in flip-seconds.
7. Are extremely conscious and compassionate
We, as a family, are extremely conscious when it comes to nutrition and how to interact in a loving and compassionate way with people, our environment and animals. We focus on buying fresh whole foods and ingredients which feed nourishes mind, body and soul. When we walk on the pavement we pick up trash and take it to the nearest bin. And even the tiniest animals we bring back to nature.
8. Are intuitive, caring and spiritual
I’ve gotten more intuitive after having given birth to my firstborn. My senses were definitely heightened by hormones and tuned in to caring for the baby. When she got older I discovered how intuitive children and us human beings are when we are in the now and connected to our bodies in stead of our minds.
9. Have a strong sense of aesthetic awareness
When it comes to interior design I am more aware than when it comes to how people dress themselves. But when it comes to table ware I just mix everything up. It’s not one set of one brand. Actually this goes for nearly everything. I’m not a brand lover, I like used or self-made. My aesthetic awareness also pops up in restaurants when the food is presented.
10. Respect nature, art and music greatly
I do have respect for all that helps us connect with our core being, our souls. My experience with nature, art and music is that it does just that instantly. Alright, not with all art, but the ones that resonate with my soul or spark my curiosity. In music there are voices which go straight to my soul and I can get emotional of how it stirs in my wound and connects with my soul.
11. Have profound and intense sensations
Yes, with foods. Light, smells, music and touch. And last but not least: when I’m connected to my higher self open to pick up information from energetic fields.
12. Can access important information from the unconscious mind
In my experience I access that information in my dreams and nightmares and travelling, following the pains in my body which make the unconscious mind conscious.
13. Have a depth of understanding and feelings
My deep understanding and curiosity for how people act out of trauma and how this imprisons them has led to my work as a coach & rebirther for highly sensitive people. Since I’m raised within a Chinese family I’ve mapped my emotional world with all the books I’ve read on this topic. There was a strong lack in emotional guidance, therefore I unconsciously sought for emotional guidance in friends with more life experience than I had in my twenties.
14. Are objective and can see the bigger picture
In my day-to-day life I’m very much subjective and life draws me into doing all the practical stuff, juggling between work, parenthood, household and social activities. Though it’s kind of tiring, it keeps me sane. At the back of focusing on all these practicalities I do FEEL the bigger picture. I know why I am here on earth.
Whenever I feel down, sad, angry or stressed I relentlessly start sharing my work on high sensitivity, spreading all I’ve learned to provide a sense of belonging to people who feel lost, shattered and tired of life. These are the times when my mental, physical and emotional energy is super low, but somehow, through the cracks, light enters. This light, this energy, motivates me to FEED the connection. To connect people with each other. We are all one. One energy. That’s my bigger picture!
Also read this article on the “16 Habits of Highly Sensitive People”.