Growth is uncomfortable: psychosomatic illness surfaced during healing process

A sign! Received by an client of mine who is going through a deep and intense transformation process. Unprocessed emotions reveal themselves through the physical body. There is rash and itching all over. How I see it, is that the inner fire is awakenend. The inner fire is a mixture of anger, fear and sadness of the hurt inner child and the adult who is now aware of both the pain of the inner child ánd the adult. And this inner fire is burning through her old skin in order for the new skin to appear. A skin in which the client is able to live from out of her own “fire”, her needs and values.

That mixture of feelings would’t have shown itself via the skin if the person was in a loving connection with their emotional body. This was a psycho-somatic reaction of trauma.

We entered this phase of deep-rooted anger, fear and sadness which resulted in rash all over her body after the 22nd coaching and rebirthing session. Up until this session many physical symptoms appeared during and in between the sessions. During the sessions she had experienced trembling from crown to toes, warmth, coldness, headache, stiffness in neck and shoulders, pressure in several body parts, cramps in arms and hands, tension throughout her legs which made her move involuntary. Parallel to these physical reactions she learned to cry. At first she was so amazed by being in contact with sadness that she started laughing. Then it became a mixture of crying and laughing.

In between sessions she went through extreme tiredness, a foggy head, itchiness, headaches and at times more energy and a new kind of clarity and cheerfulness.

The client was in it for the whole game from the first session onwards. I’m referring to the openness and curiosity she had towards rebirthing and after her first session she decided upon doing a trajectory in which the emphasis would lie on processing trauma’s through breath work. During the first three sessions she felt a renewed connection with her physical body. As we continued working together, more limiting thoughts and emotions surfaced.

Let’s say, more or less during five sessions before this rash and itchiness appeared the following insights were part of the emotional development:

  • the unhealthy relationship with her parents, living up to their expectations in so many ways possible;
  • she took upon the role of the parents in relationship to her younger brother, feeling loads of responsibility in providing emotional support, because parents weren’t able to provide this;
  • consciously saying “no” to other people’s roles (in personal & professional context)in order to getting to know her role;
  • fear of change, fear of stepping out of her comfort zone;
  • letting go of being the perfect daughter;
  • realising that for years it was a huge burden that she wanted to bring in the perfect son-in-law for her parents;
  • carefully and consciously showing her emotional self in different relationships.

The red thread through these insights is that she is letting go of emotional bagage of her parents which directed her to emotionally stand on her own feet. Of discovering her true self. It opened the path to re-evaluate her norms and values in life. With realising on a mental level in what ways she took upon the emotional bagage of her parents her emotional body awakened loads of unacknowledged emotions. These are all emotions of the inner child who was not capable of acknowledging them, because of lack in support and emotional guidance of the parents.

These unacknowledged emotions showed themselves through the physical body. Ready to be embraced and processed.

Related blogs:
Rebirthing: the body will never lie
Rebirthing: standing up for yourself

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
http://www.orchidoflife.nl/home_en/

Break and feel through depression

Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert for talking about Life and Love.

For this part on breaking/feeling through depression start watching at 1.01.01 until 1.06.33.

Depression is the lowest human vibration. It’s almost death. You can slip very easily into death…

You can’t control your way out of depression. You’ve got to surrender your way out of it. My advice would be: start feeling.

Start feeling:

✨ Sadness

✨ Fear

✨ Rage, lust

✨ Pride, narcissistic feelings (ego)

✨ Courage to feel powerlessness

How Elizabeth Gilbert sums up the different layers of emotions that you need to go through to break with depression is exactly what I guide with coaching & rebirthing sessions.

I have enjoyed every bit of this interview. I love her calming, loving and vibrant voice. If you are in need of refreshing perspectives on life and love I would definitely recommend you to make time to watch the entire interview. Enjoy!

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

Where there is fear, there is growth

Last evening I gave my 1st guided meditation through FB Live on my Dutch fb page named high sensitivity and intuition.

It went well and I had lots of fun teaching. The fun part was only in the moment! Before and after I was nervous: I couldn’t focus on watching a movie and I shed some tears. Afterwards my stomach felt empty in a painful way. So overall it wasn’t yet a relaxing experience for me.

During the moments of tension the following thought crossed my mind a couple of times: “why am I choosing to go through all of this??” My reaction was that I needed to challenge myself, but this wasn’t leading. I couldn’t longer neglect the Call. I/ my soul was “called” upon doing this for many times. It was an idea and opportunity I had to honour. I needed to Answer The Call as Brené Brown talks about in her Netflix talk “the Call to Courage”.

My partner @arnoldbalde added to this with: “You want to grow. It’s your soul’s biggest wish. Where there is fear, there is growth.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Depression, panic attacks and not sleeping? Breathe.

Depression. Panic attacks. Not sleeping. Some of the clients I guide struggle with these symptoms.

I’m guiding a highly sensitive lady who has been thinking she is depressed for around 10 years. Off and on she was on medication. She has a degree in clinical psychology, but at the moment working in communication. The human psyche, spirituality and healing has her interest. Especially because she wants to feel better for so long and is now discovering how sensitive she really is.

For the past 4 years she is on her path of healing and is not taking medicine. All her loved ones support her, but they are inclined to regular health care and on her lowest points they would recommend her to start medicine again. Even though she hasn’t full emotional support of her loved ones she had faith and courage to continue this path. I am impressed, because now 25 coaching & rebirthing sessions in I got to know her fears fully. They are scary, dark and heavy.

During her 25th rebirthing session she faced and connected with a severe bodily tension several times. Before connecting she was more aware of the phases she had to go through:

  1. Tension pulled back her head which straigthened her neck
  2. Yawning
  3. And finally connecting with tension which also caused physical pain

She has a very high physical pain threshold. Even though she felt pain she thought she could continue breathing in stage 3 for maybe half an hour longer. She is learning how to cut herself some slack, give in and surrender. Surrender to the pain that she has been holding onto for so long.

Emotionally she has been disconnected from this tension and pain for decades. It stems from her childhood. The only way to release the tension was to make sounds in stead of crying. Her healing process is also showing her to embrace sadness and cry longer than she was used to doing.

After her 25th rebirthing session she wrote me the following:

Client: “You don’t know half how grateful I am to you. You let me experience and feel light again on the deepest layers of my being.”

Client was/ is struggling with the following:

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the mind is always occupied and thinking

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the body is continuous living in a state of stress

🌿 Breathing on a daily basis is superficial

🌿 Not being able to sleep and not sleeping enough hours per night

While she is struggling on a daily basis the amount of willpower she has keeps her working and doing all kinds of courses in personal development. How does she do this? I am convinced it’s her willpower, faith and trust.

What the client said about trust: “These breathing sessions have given me trust that I will get better over time. I am able to sit with the dark cloud, the heaviness and I know it will pass by. Parallel to this I feel lighter, a weight has fallen off my shoulders and there is more room for positive thoughts. I am on the right path.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Experience positive changes in your life

“Inhale with the motivation that you want to live, that you want to experience positive changes in your life.”

This is what I told a client during his first rebirthing session because he came across moments in his life that he wanted to stop living. The amount of sadness was unbearable. Out of self-protection he thought: when I’m gone I won’t feel any of the sadness I’ve caused. But somewhere deep within he knew this wasn’t true.

And now he is here, in my coaching and rebirthing practice after years of struggeling; nasty divorce including the lives of four children and a series of lawsuits. After having read everything he wanted to know about personal development he had to acknowledge that he needed help, he needed healing.

In front of me was sitting a highly sensitive and highly gifted man. He is in pain. The pain has surfaced during the last 11 years, because of main life events, but was already present in his childhood. The fear of failure is noticable in many areas of his life. He longs for change. Positive changes. He has learned to give love, but never experienced to receive love.

To prepare him for the rebirthing/ breathing session I told him to surrender and not to expect anything. To surrender to the physical expressions of his body. He is a man who mostly lives in his head because of fear, but also because he is naturally curious, a thinker and someone who wants to solve everything by his own. The breathing session would help him to connect his head to his heart.

During his first rebirthing session he felt a tingling sensation in his arms and on his chest. He also experienced a lot of tension in his face to the amount that he couldn’t speak freely. Furthermore there was tension released in his neck after having focused on the thought “I accept myself fully”.

When you focus on the positive and act out of love you will “massage” the pain out of your system.

It was a great first session! Looking forward to the following rebirthing sessions.

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

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Warm regards,
Chungmei Cheng

My 10 Year Challenge 2009/2019

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2009/2019 ♥️ 

In 2009 I was one year into my fulltime coaching practice. During fall that year I got pregnant and @arnoldbalde got into a burnout. We were together for 2 years and after two years of mourning about my father and grandfather we found ourselves in another huge challenge. 

We took the challenge. It has been hard, but the unconditional love we feel for each other has gotten us through these years. However it’s almost unimaginable, but we did laugh a lot. We cried and laughed a lot. 

We have received two beautiful human beings in our lives. (2010 & 2016) We are surrounded by beautiful people. We are greatful. The spiritual and emotional growth continues… 

Now, from the perspective of unconditional love we have reached the highest of high. Letting go of all pain: sadness, anger and fear that was in between us. The path continues. We strive for a loving life in which we both are given the freedom to grow into the souls we are. 

I thank you @arnoldbalde for the woman I am today. From now onwards I ask for what I need to continue growing into the person I am. 

#10yearchallenge #soul #soulmates #unconditionallove ♥️

Opening up for a love relationship

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Today I had a client in who shared: “My manager and many colleagues have noticed that I have changed drastically within a year. All good and positive. I am confident. I know what I want and I definitely know what I don’t want. Moreover, I communicate this.

Furthermore I am looking out for a new job in the same company. One with less work pressure and responsibility so I can focus on my studies. I am creating space for myself. I feel an abundance of freedom, space and happiness in myself. This also has to do with breaking up with friendships/ people who asked too much of me. Now I am focusing on the people who give me energy, who make me laugh.”

Yeah!! I am so happy for her. We have been working on balancing the male and female energy within her. All her decisions will help her to live more from her female energy. She came in with a personal love goal: opening up for a love relationship.

The sessions were focused on communicating bounderies, processing sadness, anger and fear rooted in the relationship with her parents and sister and work related issues. Now the time has finally come to focus on her initial personal goal ♥️

I am looking forward to work with her. Letting love in!

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If I know what love is it is because of you

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“This is the man I would do anything for: move to a deserted place, quit my job and start a new job and most of all express my love for him and don’t make him do anything he isn’t ready for.” ~ shared by a client of mine.

She asked for my guidance because she wants to embrace love relationships. She has been single for years. Every now and then she goes on a date via Tinder, but these first encounters are more tiring then uplifting to her. She wants to have a relationship with someone who can deal with his emotions, who asks about her life, who listens, who takes, even the heavier storms in life, lightly. Someone who has been positively shaped by his experiences. While she wanted all these she also had to acknowledge her own fears and they way she was holding back during these encounters. She wanted to move forward, show herself more, her real self.

She was definitely ready for a huge positive change. 

Our first meeting was a coaching session and during our second meeting I guided her through her first rebirthing session. At first she was sceptic. “How does this work? I feel happy and I am content with my working and social life. How will rebirthing sessions open me up for love relationships?”

Rebirthing sessions or conscious connected breathing sessions will help you process hidden fear, anger and sadness in the physical and energetic body in order to clear the mind from limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are fed by these destructive emotions. You will process and go through these emotions via movements of the body, showing emotions and letting your voice be heard. With every breathing session you will notice small (and bigger and bigger) changes in your body, mind and soul. The limiting beliefs and physical aches are being replaced by loving positive beliefs about yourself and the world.

After her first rebirthing session she enthusiastically told me that lots of men noticed her and gave her attention. Something within her had shifted and this was the first change she had experienced towards opening herself up for a love relationship. Fantastic!

And there was something about her which made me think of other clients I guide. Every time I have multiple experiences of people sharing the same thoughts, feelings and experiences I feel a strong urge to share it with you, dear reader.

This time I would like to describe a type of client who come to me for guidance:

  • Believing strongly in that everything is temporary which makes throwing away things easy and getting rid of old photos
  • Believing in that everything has a reason
  • Knowing that you can only love with all your heart receiving every person who is related to the man or woman you love with open arms
  • Strongwilled and strong opinions and views on life to live by
  • Thinking limits the whole spectrum of feeling and acting upon what you feel
  • Accepting and/or dealing with loved ones who have strong negative energy

Get to know my work & book your session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and beyond 

Awake my soul

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*Awake my soul*

This happened indeed to a highly sensitive lady who came in for her 14th coaching & rebirthing session. She felt her willpower and even though she had the fear of fainting her willpower to get rid of her fears and obsessions was far bigger. She continued doing the conscious connected breathing and lots of restlessness was expressed through movements of the body.

On top of that we had awaken her soul. She heard the powerful sound of her voice for the first time. In her words: ‘My chest didn’t hurt anymore while I expressed my voice.’ During the previous session she went through a deep rooted fear; her body was restless, inhaling was difficult and she thought she would faint. In such a situation I intervene with making sounds and she followed. She connected with the pain. I held her hand and she pinched me hard.

The weeks before this session she felt emotional numb, very tired and only wanting to crawl up below her blankets. After this session she needed a week to recover including symptoms of a cold, but when she walked in for her 14th session I saw a different person.

In her daily life she is standing up for herself, she expresses her needs and gets back remarks of being too feisty and that she needs to hold herself down. She doesn’t agree. Finally she knows she is able to recover from her fears, panic attacks and obsessions. She will continue until she can fully trust and embrace her own being.

Chapeau!!

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Rebirthing: how ego’s cunningness gets in the way

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Just finished an intense rebirthing session. There was an enormous breakthrough. Client said: “Within 15 minutes I’m on that air mattras breathing, because if I don’t the tension will accumulate and fear will make me sit on the couch longer, avoiding the confrontation.” And so the client did, even within 5 minutes. Those breakthroughs give me so much energy! I’m freakin’ proud that people are willingly moving/ breathing through their fears and are learning to let go. It’s a huge challenge to let go.

Ego’s cunningness get’s in the way. It shows itself when crossing the legs, making fists or reaching for the head to pull your own hair telling yourself that this feels better. No, it won’t make you feel better when you go against that tension that wants to be expressed by the body. Letting go requires to embrace every physical expression as it comes. Not to twist it or break the flow if it. Just how it comes.

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