Starting my day by guiding someone to express deep-rooted emotions is gratifying work. Many people have the tendency to overthink too much. Especially when it comes down to emotions like sadness mixed with fear. It’s one thing to understand where emotions and reactions are coming from and it’s a complete other thing to feel what is limiting you to act out of love. Sadness and fear towards a beloved one need a way out. As an adult one can still unconsciously hold on to emotions of your inner child, the wounded inner child. Heal these wounds by expressing what is still hurting you. It’s never too late to do this.
Have you been a victim of people who are projecting their negative energy onto your life? Stop being the victim and step out of the problem others have created. It is both awful and true, but some people just don’t know how to handle their deep rooted fears, anger and sadness. The only reason for them to project these emotions onto others is because they don’t feel and see a way out. When it comes down to family relationships which are the hardest and most challenging of all relationships we often come to question ourselves: are we the ones to help them? Underneath all that blame and pointing fingers is love. For sure.
The only problem is that blaming sucks up all the positive energy you have. It tires one out to the bone. No energy left no more to speak. How is it possible to speak to someone who continues to blame, play the victim and ignore your needs? I’ve spoken to some courageous people who stood up with their loving energy: “I will HELP my sister”, “I will keep on supporting my little brother financially”, “I will only express loving words and actions towards my mom” or “I will stick by their side, because I see the good in them”. Some of these people were strong enough to play it this way. Others succumbed to the negativity which was played out on them.
The key in resolving conflicts is first of all knowing which part you play in the conflict. Do you even play a part? As how I described it in the above situations, sometimes we play the part of wanting to help the ones who are driven by fear, anger and sadness, but ask yourself up until when you are able to do this without losing your beloved self in the matter. Secondly, after having defined your role and how and if you would like to participate in the situation, know that you have the possibility to “stop participating in the problem”. Have the courage to step away from the situation. Love yourself.
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It has been a while since I read the books of Don Miguel Ruiz. Back than his words gave me strength and courage to continue doing what I loved doing most (coaching). Recently I came across ‘The Four Agreements’ he speaks of and again his way of thinking lifted my spirits. Thank you Don Miguel Ruiz the Toltec Master.