Recently I guided a session with a 48-year lady. She has followed my work for three years and finally decided to go for it. During this first session there was stress, sadness, laughter and shame. Especially shame, because she felt very uncomfortable talking about herself, her roots, her decision making. This was all rooted in a nasty relationship with her narcissistic mother. All this understanding from her side for her sick mother has nearly come to an end.
Nearly, because she is sick of it all, but still not completely with her mother. A big part of her is protecting her mother from blame, sadness, anger and disappointment. She doesn’t want to hurt her mother, but meanwhile she is the one who is hurt by the cruel and harsh depictions of herself by her mother and in addition her sister is standing on her mothers side. She knows that her mother always plays her cards in a way that she will suffer from it, but it’s just not who she is to say a definite “goodbye” to this relationship. So, let’s park this.
What she is facing right now is being tired of the negative hectic atmosphere at work, a husband who is burnout since last Spring and taking care of both her daughter and her husband and the household. There is a lot to reflect upon and a lot to process.
For more information about narcissism take a look at the video’s of Vivian McGrath.
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