Online Interviews with beautiful and inspiring people

I’ve been doing these Online Interviews via videoskype after 3 weeks into the corona-crisis. This photo is with Hubertine Langemeijer, @kunstpost, a dear friend of mine and director of “Stichting Kunstpost”. She rents out work spaces for an affordable price to artists and is always busy with organizing social projects.

During the first weeks I didn’t have the emotional nor mental space to work on the creative projects I had already started. I switched to survival mode. More time and energy went out to contacting clients about how to continue and I felt anxious because my life partner’s income vanished into the open air.

Peace and quiteness returned because most of my work continued and slowly @arnoldbalde received other work opportunities. However most of my clients continued, new requests for coaching & rebirthing have been on a freeze for 7 weeks. That’s why I still wasn’t calmn enough to pick up my creative projects.

Than suddenly the idea came to me to do these Online Interviews. For years I have been telling my clients to share their story and talents with more people. Starting with the people around them to let it evolve into something more. The idea with these Online Interviews is that they can do this through me!

I speak to former and current clients, work relationships in the field of coaching and psychology and artists about working from the heart, art and creative processes and personal development.

This project feels like an ungoing one. It’s definitely part of my mission to put forward all these beautiful people with their innate talents and ideas about life. My motivation is to inspire people to take action.

A story that touches your soul, heart and mind is able to ignite just that what you need to move forward in your life.

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

Be who you are, not who the world wants you to be
Website: Orchid of Life ~ HSP Coaching & Rebirthing

Growth is uncomfortable: psychosomatic illness surfaced during healing process

A sign! Received by an client of mine who is going through a deep and intense transformation process. Unprocessed emotions reveal themselves through the physical body. There is rash and itching all over. How I see it, is that the inner fire is awakenend. The inner fire is a mixture of anger, fear and sadness of the hurt inner child and the adult who is now aware of both the pain of the inner child ánd the adult. And this inner fire is burning through her old skin in order for the new skin to appear. A skin in which the client is able to live from out of her own “fire”, her needs and values.

That mixture of feelings would’t have shown itself via the skin if the person was in a loving connection with their emotional body. This was a psycho-somatic reaction of trauma.

We entered this phase of deep-rooted anger, fear and sadness which resulted in rash all over her body after the 22nd coaching and rebirthing session. Up until this session many physical symptoms appeared during and in between the sessions. During the sessions she had experienced trembling from crown to toes, warmth, coldness, headache, stiffness in neck and shoulders, pressure in several body parts, cramps in arms and hands, tension throughout her legs which made her move involuntary. Parallel to these physical reactions she learned to cry. At first she was so amazed by being in contact with sadness that she started laughing. Then it became a mixture of crying and laughing.

In between sessions she went through extreme tiredness, a foggy head, itchiness, headaches and at times more energy and a new kind of clarity and cheerfulness.

The client was in it for the whole game from the first session onwards. I’m referring to the openness and curiosity she had towards rebirthing and after her first session she decided upon doing a trajectory in which the emphasis would lie on processing trauma’s through breath work. During the first three sessions she felt a renewed connection with her physical body. As we continued working together, more limiting thoughts and emotions surfaced.

Let’s say, more or less during five sessions before this rash and itchiness appeared the following insights were part of the emotional development:

  • the unhealthy relationship with her parents, living up to their expectations in so many ways possible;
  • she took upon the role of the parents in relationship to her younger brother, feeling loads of responsibility in providing emotional support, because parents weren’t able to provide this;
  • consciously saying “no” to other people’s roles (in personal & professional context)in order to getting to know her role;
  • fear of change, fear of stepping out of her comfort zone;
  • letting go of being the perfect daughter;
  • realising that for years it was a huge burden that she wanted to bring in the perfect son-in-law for her parents;
  • carefully and consciously showing her emotional self in different relationships.

The red thread through these insights is that she is letting go of emotional bagage of her parents which directed her to emotionally stand on her own feet. Of discovering her true self. It opened the path to re-evaluate her norms and values in life. With realising on a mental level in what ways she took upon the emotional bagage of her parents her emotional body awakened loads of unacknowledged emotions. These are all emotions of the inner child who was not capable of acknowledging them, because of lack in support and emotional guidance of the parents.

These unacknowledged emotions showed themselves through the physical body. Ready to be embraced and processed.

Related blogs:
Rebirthing: the body will never lie
Rebirthing: standing up for yourself

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
http://www.orchidoflife.nl/home_en/

2020: Book your session on Tuesday evenings

As of this week I’m taking on clients who want telephone sessions in the evening. This week I’m starting with a client who lives in Luxembourg. The next year is around the corner and I’m looking forward to embrace 2020. This will be the year in which I will open up my practice on Tuesday evening.

I’m looking forward to receive you on a new location in The Hague or via telephone/ video calling:

Tuesday 14th of January
Tuesday 28th of January
Tuesday 18th of February
Tuesday 10,17, 24 en 31 of March

On these Tuesdays I work from 8.30 am till 2.30 pm and from 6pm till 9.30pm at the Appelstraat 22 in The Hague at “de Praktijk voor Houding en Beweging van het unieke individu”; http://www.vitaal.nl.

Read the following blogs to get an impression of the work I do:

Are you longing for positive changes? Book your introduction session and let’s work together towards how you would like to feel, day in and day out! Also through video-calling.

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng
HSP Coach & Rebirther

 

Amazing synchronic situations keep crossing my path

During a session I came to preach to a client. It was to stimulate the fire within her, to feel that she is allowed to and should set bounderies. The session after she said: “You said ‘goddammit’ and a few days later I went to some event with a friend and pulled a card. The card said ‘goddammit’. I couldn’t remember having said that!

And in another session I told the client that she should definitely share her life story through writing. Apparently her grandmother is a medium and through spiritism she had received the message from up above that she should write!

I share a lot of my hsp coaching and rebirthing work, but sometimes with some topics I’m hesitant. For instance with two books written by Alice Miller. Weeks passed by before I shared it on all social media. When I shared it on my Dutch facebook page on high sensitivity and intuition someone who follows my work digitally, but whom I’ve also seen once in a workshop I led reacted with a range of synchronic events including my post about these books. To her it was a signal to start reading! Fantastic. To me it was a wink of the universe that I always need to follow my hunces. When I want to share essential information, I should go for it, without hesitation.

I could go on and on…

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you 🧡🔥

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng
HSP Coach & Rebirther

Be who you are, not who the world wants you to be.
Orchid of Life Website

Break and feel through depression

Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert for talking about Life and Love.

For this part on breaking/feeling through depression start watching at 1.01.01 until 1.06.33.

Depression is the lowest human vibration. It’s almost death. You can slip very easily into death…

You can’t control your way out of depression. You’ve got to surrender your way out of it. My advice would be: start feeling.

Start feeling:

✨ Sadness

✨ Fear

✨ Rage, lust

✨ Pride, narcissistic feelings (ego)

✨ Courage to feel powerlessness

How Elizabeth Gilbert sums up the different layers of emotions that you need to go through to break with depression is exactly what I guide with coaching & rebirthing sessions.

I have enjoyed every bit of this interview. I love her calming, loving and vibrant voice. If you are in need of refreshing perspectives on life and love I would definitely recommend you to make time to watch the entire interview. Enjoy!

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

About the 3 hour rebirthing session

There are a lot of things that get me going. One of them is today’s 3 hour rebirthing session in which a client connected to her inner child.

The child who hid her emotions for many years. The child who was raised by parents who weren’t able to give emotional guidance. The child who was frightened, sad and angry. The child who was finally able to cry passionately.

The adults body was shakened up by releasing all tension, cramps and itching by tears and trembling. After the 4th physical and emotional wave the client’s mind was clearer and eyesight was broader. Still laying on the air matress she spreaded her arms and said: I’ve grown.

It’s all about finding the calm in the chaos. That’s exactly the moment I suggest a double/ 3 hour rebirthing session. (Double, because most sessions I guide are coaching & rebirthing sessions of 1.5 hour)

The moment I invite someone for a 3 hour session is when I’ve noticed the following:

🌿 Client speaks more freely about emotional conflicts and especially mentions loyalty conflicts with parents/ family;

🌿 Client sees images of childhood memories during the breathing session;

🌿 Client is able to breath through the feeling of fear and thoughts out of fear during a breathing session;

🌿 Client experiences all types of physical symptoms in between the sessions. Emotional/energetic layers have been peelt of. For example: itching is an expression of unconsciously repressed anger;

🌿 Client opens up in written reflections by e-mail. Writing from the core pain and limiting thoughts and behaviour;

🌿 Client chose to be guided and is motivated to release him or herself from emotional burden and energetic blockages in the mind, body and soul to feel who he/she is. And the person desires to act out of love, joy and inspiration.

When the emotional chaos is at its highest calm is around the corner if you are willing to breath through it. Connect with your inner child 💚

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

#rebirthing #breathwork #healing #innerchildwork #emotionalgrowth #hsp #highlysensitiveperson #highlygifted #TheHague and beyond

I welcome abundance into my daily life

Today is the last day of the 21 Days Abundance Challenge by Deepak Chopra. It was fun and it has definitely changed my abundance mindset in a positive way. For one I decided to go through my closet to decide which items I wanted to keep and which I wanted to give a way. It felt amazing to keep the items in which I feel 100% comfortable. And the items I gave away put an enormous smile on a friend’s face. Fantastic.

Another outcome is that I feel happy and grateful on a daily basis with all I have; material and non-material. I’ve always felt cheerful and grateful, but the challenge made me tune in more with all the beauty that surrounds me and boosted these feelings. Yesterday I decided to participate in a 3-day training on Mental Space Psychology by Lucas Derks, a dear friend of mine. It feels so good to see something, want it and seconds after to decide to do it. Feeling that type of freedom. Wow!!

Right after I made this decision the thought crossed my mind that this investment in myself will come back to me multiplied 7 times.

And to top the whole abundance-adventure of: today @arnoldbalde and I went to Elysium in Bleiswijck; a sauna complex. We enjoyed it fully, what a relaxing and energizing day we had. Being good, kind and treat ourselves; at times a big challenge, but now finally it feels good.

So yes, I fully agree to a life in which we live in the present with no regrets, thanking every one who has had an impact on my life (positive or negative; in the end it’s all positive if we are able to draw the lessons from the experiences) and cherising and enjoying all sparks of abundance that surrounds us.

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei 💕🌿✨

Do you long for positive developments in your life?

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Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing

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I just love breakthrough sessions!

I just love breakthrough sessions!

Especially when it concerns the emotional development of someone who hasn’t been sleeping for years now due to high levels of tension in the body. In today’s session; the 27th coaching and rebirthing session, the client was finally able to continue the conscious connected breathing without any interruptions.

Client felt so fed up by how slow her healing process was coming along. After our talk about whether is better to breathe motivated by frustration and anger or love and compassion conclusion was it’s good to give room to the frustration and anger, because it will lower fear levels.

Anger is thé emotion which will help you overcome your fears. Hence client breathed with the motivation of being fed up. This was very helpful to open up the chest and get connected with the underlying tensions. Inner child of the client cried from trauma, these were healing tears. Later on the adult client cried out of hope, relieve and happiness of having reached this phase in the healing process.

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

Do you long for positive developments in your life?

Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

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Depression, panic attacks and not sleeping? Breathe.

Depression. Panic attacks. Not sleeping. Some of the clients I guide struggle with these symptoms.

I’m guiding a highly sensitive lady who has been thinking she is depressed for around 10 years. Off and on she was on medication. She has a degree in clinical psychology, but at the moment working in communication. The human psyche, spirituality and healing has her interest. Especially because she wants to feel better for so long and is now discovering how sensitive she really is.

For the past 4 years she is on her path of healing and is not taking medicine. All her loved ones support her, but they are inclined to regular health care and on her lowest points they would recommend her to start medicine again. Even though she hasn’t full emotional support of her loved ones she had faith and courage to continue this path. I am impressed, because now 25 coaching & rebirthing sessions in I got to know her fears fully. They are scary, dark and heavy.

During her 25th rebirthing session she faced and connected with a severe bodily tension several times. Before connecting she was more aware of the phases she had to go through:

  1. Tension pulled back her head which straigthened her neck
  2. Yawning
  3. And finally connecting with tension which also caused physical pain

She has a very high physical pain threshold. Even though she felt pain she thought she could continue breathing in stage 3 for maybe half an hour longer. She is learning how to cut herself some slack, give in and surrender. Surrender to the pain that she has been holding onto for so long.

Emotionally she has been disconnected from this tension and pain for decades. It stems from her childhood. The only way to release the tension was to make sounds in stead of crying. Her healing process is also showing her to embrace sadness and cry longer than she was used to doing.

After her 25th rebirthing session she wrote me the following:

Client: “You don’t know half how grateful I am to you. You let me experience and feel light again on the deepest layers of my being.”

Client was/ is struggling with the following:

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the mind is always occupied and thinking

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the body is continuous living in a state of stress

🌿 Breathing on a daily basis is superficial

🌿 Not being able to sleep and not sleeping enough hours per night

While she is struggling on a daily basis the amount of willpower she has keeps her working and doing all kinds of courses in personal development. How does she do this? I am convinced it’s her willpower, faith and trust.

What the client said about trust: “These breathing sessions have given me trust that I will get better over time. I am able to sit with the dark cloud, the heaviness and I know it will pass by. Parallel to this I feel lighter, a weight has fallen off my shoulders and there is more room for positive thoughts. I am on the right path.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

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Experience positive changes in your life

“Inhale with the motivation that you want to live, that you want to experience positive changes in your life.”

This is what I told a client during his first rebirthing session because he came across moments in his life that he wanted to stop living. The amount of sadness was unbearable. Out of self-protection he thought: when I’m gone I won’t feel any of the sadness I’ve caused. But somewhere deep within he knew this wasn’t true.

And now he is here, in my coaching and rebirthing practice after years of struggeling; nasty divorce including the lives of four children and a series of lawsuits. After having read everything he wanted to know about personal development he had to acknowledge that he needed help, he needed healing.

In front of me was sitting a highly sensitive and highly gifted man. He is in pain. The pain has surfaced during the last 11 years, because of main life events, but was already present in his childhood. The fear of failure is noticable in many areas of his life. He longs for change. Positive changes. He has learned to give love, but never experienced to receive love.

To prepare him for the rebirthing/ breathing session I told him to surrender and not to expect anything. To surrender to the physical expressions of his body. He is a man who mostly lives in his head because of fear, but also because he is naturally curious, a thinker and someone who wants to solve everything by his own. The breathing session would help him to connect his head to his heart.

During his first rebirthing session he felt a tingling sensation in his arms and on his chest. He also experienced a lot of tension in his face to the amount that he couldn’t speak freely. Furthermore there was tension released in his neck after having focused on the thought “I accept myself fully”.

When you focus on the positive and act out of love you will “massage” the pain out of your system.

It was a great first session! Looking forward to the following rebirthing sessions.

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

For more on my work, please hop on my website:
Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing

Warm regards,
Chungmei Cheng