Break and feel through depression

Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert for talking about Life and Love.

For this part on breaking/feeling through depression start watching at 1.01.01 until 1.06.33.

Depression is the lowest human vibration. It’s almost death. You can slip very easily into death…

You can’t control your way out of depression. You’ve got to surrender your way out of it. My advice would be: start feeling.

Start feeling:

✨ Sadness

✨ Fear

✨ Rage, lust

✨ Pride, narcissistic feelings (ego)

✨ Courage to feel powerlessness

How Elizabeth Gilbert sums up the different layers of emotions that you need to go through to break with depression is exactly what I guide with coaching & rebirthing sessions.

I have enjoyed every bit of this interview. I love her calming, loving and vibrant voice. If you are in need of refreshing perspectives on life and love I would definitely recommend you to make time to watch the entire interview. Enjoy!

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

About the 3 hour rebirthing session

There are a lot of things that get me going. One of them is today’s 3 hour rebirthing session in which a client connected to her inner child.

The child who hid her emotions for many years. The child who was raised by parents who weren’t able to give emotional guidance. The child who was frightened, sad and angry. The child who was finally able to cry passionately.

The adults body was shakened up by releasing all tension, cramps and itching by tears and trembling. After the 4th physical and emotional wave the client’s mind was clearer and eyesight was broader. Still laying on the air matress she spreaded her arms and said: I’ve grown.

It’s all about finding the calm in the chaos. That’s exactly the moment I suggest a double/ 3 hour rebirthing session. (Double, because most sessions I guide are coaching & rebirthing sessions of 1.5 hour)

The moment I invite someone for a 3 hour session is when I’ve noticed the following:

🌿 Client speaks more freely about emotional conflicts and especially mentions loyalty conflicts with parents/ family;

🌿 Client sees images of childhood memories during the breathing session;

🌿 Client is able to breath through the feeling of fear and thoughts out of fear during a breathing session;

🌿 Client experiences all types of physical symptoms in between the sessions. Emotional/energetic layers have been peelt of. For example: itching is an expression of unconsciously repressed anger;

🌿 Client opens up in written reflections by e-mail. Writing from the core pain and limiting thoughts and behaviour;

🌿 Client chose to be guided and is motivated to release him or herself from emotional burden and energetic blockages in the mind, body and soul to feel who he/she is. And the person desires to act out of love, joy and inspiration.

When the emotional chaos is at its highest calm is around the corner if you are willing to breath through it. Connect with your inner child 💚

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP Coach & Rebirther
My website & lifework: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing 

#rebirthing #breathwork #healing #innerchildwork #emotionalgrowth #hsp #highlysensitiveperson #highlygifted #TheHague and beyond

I welcome abundance into my daily life

Today is the last day of the 21 Days Abundance Challenge by Deepak Chopra. It was fun and it has definitely changed my abundance mindset in a positive way. For one I decided to go through my closet to decide which items I wanted to keep and which I wanted to give a way. It felt amazing to keep the items in which I feel 100% comfortable. And the items I gave away put an enormous smile on a friend’s face. Fantastic.

Another outcome is that I feel happy and grateful on a daily basis with all I have; material and non-material. I’ve always felt cheerful and grateful, but the challenge made me tune in more with all the beauty that surrounds me and boosted these feelings. Yesterday I decided to participate in a 3-day training on Mental Space Psychology by Lucas Derks, a dear friend of mine. It feels so good to see something, want it and seconds after to decide to do it. Feeling that type of freedom. Wow!!

Right after I made this decision the thought crossed my mind that this investment in myself will come back to me multiplied 7 times.

And to top the whole abundance-adventure of: today @arnoldbalde and I went to Elysium in Bleiswijck; a sauna complex. We enjoyed it fully, what a relaxing and energizing day we had. Being good, kind and treat ourselves; at times a big challenge, but now finally it feels good.

So yes, I fully agree to a life in which we live in the present with no regrets, thanking every one who has had an impact on my life (positive or negative; in the end it’s all positive if we are able to draw the lessons from the experiences) and cherising and enjoying all sparks of abundance that surrounds us.

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei 💕🌿✨

Do you long for positive developments in your life?

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I just love breakthrough sessions!

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I just love breakthrough sessions!

Especially when it concerns the emotional development of someone who hasn’t been sleeping for years now due to high levels of tension in the body. In today’s session; the 27th coaching and rebirthing session, the client was finally able to continue the conscious connected breathing without any interruptions.

Client felt so fed up by how slow her healing process was coming along. After our talk about whether is better to breathe motivated by frustration and anger or love and compassion conclusion was it’s good to give room to the frustration and anger, because it will lower fear levels.

Anger is thé emotion which will help you overcome your fears. Hence client breathed with the motivation of being fed up. This was very helpful to open up the chest and get connected with the underlying tensions. Inner child of the client cried from trauma, these were healing tears. Later on the adult client cried out of hope, relieve and happiness of having reached this phase in the healing process.

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Depression, panic attacks and not sleeping? Breathe.

Depression. Panic attacks. Not sleeping. Some of the clients I guide struggle with these symptoms.

I’m guiding a highly sensitive lady who has been thinking she is depressed for around 10 years. Off and on she was on medication. She has a degree in clinical psychology, but at the moment working in communication. The human psyche, spirituality and healing has her interest. Especially because she wants to feel better for so long and is now discovering how sensitive she really is.

For the past 4 years she is on her path of healing and is not taking medicine. All her loved ones support her, but they are inclined to regular health care and on her lowest points they would recommend her to start medicine again. Even though she hasn’t full emotional support of her loved ones she had faith and courage to continue this path. I am impressed, because now 25 coaching & rebirthing sessions in I got to know her fears fully. They are scary, dark and heavy.

During her 25th rebirthing session she faced and connected with a severe bodily tension several times. Before connecting she was more aware of the phases she had to go through:

  1. Tension pulled back her head which straigthened her neck
  2. Yawning
  3. And finally connecting with tension which also caused physical pain

She has a very high physical pain threshold. Even though she felt pain she thought she could continue breathing in stage 3 for maybe half an hour longer. She is learning how to cut herself some slack, give in and surrender. Surrender to the pain that she has been holding onto for so long.

Emotionally she has been disconnected from this tension and pain for decades. It stems from her childhood. The only way to release the tension was to make sounds in stead of crying. Her healing process is also showing her to embrace sadness and cry longer than she was used to doing.

After her 25th rebirthing session she wrote me the following:

Client: “You don’t know half how grateful I am to you. You let me experience and feel light again on the deepest layers of my being.”

Client was/ is struggling with the following:

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the mind is always occupied and thinking

🌿 Fear to such an extent that the body is continuous living in a state of stress

🌿 Breathing on a daily basis is superficial

🌿 Not being able to sleep and not sleeping enough hours per night

While she is struggling on a daily basis the amount of willpower she has keeps her working and doing all kinds of courses in personal development. How does she do this? I am convinced it’s her willpower, faith and trust.

What the client said about trust: “These breathing sessions have given me trust that I will get better over time. I am able to sit with the dark cloud, the heaviness and I know it will pass by. Parallel to this I feel lighter, a weight has fallen off my shoulders and there is more room for positive thoughts. I am on the right path.”

Breath with me?

With Com-Passion,
Chungmei Cheng

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Experience positive changes in your life

“Inhale with the motivation that you want to live, that you want to experience positive changes in your life.”

This is what I told a client during his first rebirthing session because he came across moments in his life that he wanted to stop living. The amount of sadness was unbearable. Out of self-protection he thought: when I’m gone I won’t feel any of the sadness I’ve caused. But somewhere deep within he knew this wasn’t true.

And now he is here, in my coaching and rebirthing practice after years of struggeling; nasty divorce including the lives of four children and a series of lawsuits. After having read everything he wanted to know about personal development he had to acknowledge that he needed help, he needed healing.

In front of me was sitting a highly sensitive and highly gifted man. He is in pain. The pain has surfaced during the last 11 years, because of main life events, but was already present in his childhood. The fear of failure is noticable in many areas of his life. He longs for change. Positive changes. He has learned to give love, but never experienced to receive love.

To prepare him for the rebirthing/ breathing session I told him to surrender and not to expect anything. To surrender to the physical expressions of his body. He is a man who mostly lives in his head because of fear, but also because he is naturally curious, a thinker and someone who wants to solve everything by his own. The breathing session would help him to connect his head to his heart.

During his first rebirthing session he felt a tingling sensation in his arms and on his chest. He also experienced a lot of tension in his face to the amount that he couldn’t speak freely. Furthermore there was tension released in his neck after having focused on the thought “I accept myself fully”.

When you focus on the positive and act out of love you will “massage” the pain out of your system.

It was a great first session! Looking forward to the following rebirthing sessions.

Do you long for positive developments in your life? Book your introduction session: Orchid of Life HSP Coaching & Rebirthing in The Hague and via video calling

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Warm regards,
Chungmei Cheng

HSP: I no longer am scared of myself

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Coaching & rebirthing experience of one of my clients…

Through my sessions with Chungmei and the guidance she’s offered me, a lot of aspects of myself and my past unfolded, somethings I didn’t know that I was capable of and I was still holding on to. 

It’s hard to describe the feeling you go through when you undergo the ‘rebirthing’ sessions. My experience is that lots of tension surfaced in my body. Sometimes I found a release in letting my voice be heard and other times a tear rolled down my face.

What in my experience made Chungmei different from other therapists is that I felt like she is so comfortable with showing her emotions too, as she is a highly sensitive person as well. This made me feel more understood in an unspoken kind of way. The entire process felt more natural, instead of a ‘by the book’ type of approach. In my mind that is also the way to go about it. Since every person is different, every experience, every trauma, and coping mechanism. 

I used to think that something was wrong with me, my way of handeling life and feelings. Since other people didn’t think something was quite a problem or that I was way more easily emotionally triggered. I thought I just had to toughen up, but was scared that that would mean that I couldn’t stay true to myself. I was afraid I had to change my way of treat people. 

But I can now say that I am still true to what I used to aspire to be. But more living from my own energy and more in control of my emotions. In a way that I accept all I’m feeling and undergoing it. instead of over analysing it mentally with how I am supposed to feel or think. 

I was scared that for the rest of my life thinking of my mother and remembering her would be linked with the immense feeling of not being able to breathe and pain. Chungmei asked me ‘ what if you could remember her in only but pure love’. I didn’t think that was possible. But now from time to time I’m capable of doing so. Not all the time yet, since im not completely there yet, but now I have experienced what she meant by that. 

Chungmei has been such a great attribute to my healing process and self acceptance. Her guidance ignited my inner wisdom and unconditional love on how to balance my emotions. I no longer am scared of myself, nor do I believe I’m too weak because of being more sensitive to stimulus around me. I now see it as a great aspect of myself and can use it better to my own advantage. 

I would recommend this to everyone to at least try it once. Might be the kind of therapy you didn’t know you needed. I hope to continue on this path of self-discovery, with the occasional knock on your door, Chungmei. 😉

Thank you so much for all you have done for me so far.

You are most welcome!

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