Moving abroad for a couple of years

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A dear friend of mine came over to see me in The Hague. I wasn’t expecting her to tell us that she would move to London next year. Her husband got offered a job and they are in the midst of settling an arrangement to move their family including two little kids to London for three years. This has been their dream for many years and they didn’t think a chance like this would come by any time soon. Truth need to be told that she had kept this a secret for me for some months, because they wanted to be sure before sharing this huge news with friends. I was left in shock.

Why? And why so soon? The first emotion that popped up was that I would miss her. That all would be different, even though we have already struggled with meeting up while both living in the Netherlands. Straight after she had told me I opened up to what I was feeling, tears came rolling down my face. She embraced me and I just let it go. To be honest, I am proud to share that I was able to open to all my emotions and thoughts. When I look back at the times I have done this I am sure this started happening from this year onwards. It feels like I have been through a miraculous shift when it comes down to showing my tears to family and friends. I feel comfortable and safe in doing so.

From the moment she lives in London I imagine we would become more efficient in scheduling our get-to-gathers. Perhaps we will start using facetime or videoskype. Many people I know use these means of communication to stay in touch. Like having breakfast on a Sunday morning in ones kitchen while seeing and talking to family in Switserland. Actually I don’t want to think about this future scenery anymore, because I prefer having my friends living around the corner. Even though I would like to have more contact with my friends abroad I tend to keep in touch for a couple of times a year and be so, so very happy when I actually see them.

Of course I haven’t cried all the while she was visiting. Tears and laughter in my life are like two hands holding each other in good and bad times. I took her to the Hague city centre to discover a healthy juice and lunch café named Fine Fresh Food. Their vegan brownie and the savoury juice I tried was splendid. Furthermore we discussed our work and initiatives we are exploring in the field of psychology and lifecoaching.

Oh, I forget to mention one little detail, a few days before she came I literally thought to myself ‘Would I like to live abroad for a couple of years?’. I was surprised by this thought, because it came out of nowhere. On top of this at the beginning of this week our daughter told us she wants to go to England to speak English. Most likely we had a hunch of this message coming our way. I told my quite down-to-earth friend about our presentiments. She laughed and took it lightly. Life is about sharing right? There is no distance in time and space.

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Step up Revolution ~ Gallery Art Dance

The above ‘Gallery Art Dance’ moved me to the bone. If you’re looking for inspiration, stop right here and take a few minutes to watch this dance performance. What moved me was the combination of the beauty of colour, the soft movements and the element of surprise. Somehow the beauty of it all struck me right in the heart; tears sprang out of my eyes. I felt thankful, alive and excited.

As children we grow up in wonder. We are surrounded by everything worth discovering. We get excited by the simplest things; lighting a candle, cutting paper with scissors and climbing up a chair to watch other children playing. Most children definitely laugh more than adults. They laugh because they truly enjoy what they’re doing. What happened along the way to adulthood?

A lot can happen. How big or small the trauma’s are, if it is still limitating your life it is worth to take a look at it. Most of us are afraid of the depth of the trauma, of all the emotions they might feel. From experience I know that the negative emotions will make place for loving emotions. Of course it’s not easy to dive into something painful, but how you will feel in the end is definitely worth the time, effort and energy.

Let’s learn to live more authentically. We do that by overcoming our fears and by confronting ourselves with hurt, anger and disappointment. One way to do this is to perceive more love around us. Shift your focus to beauty and let the love in. Experiencing more love helps us to feel the pain we need to let go.

Love is an energy that creates a feeling that changes and transforms the experience that we call life.