Too often we run around doing things for others or we keep ourselves occupied with work, hobbies and social activities. At the end of the day or a whole week we feel exhausted. When did we take time to feed our soul? Especially highly sensitive people need their down time; time to inhale energy and exhale relaxation. One of the things you can do to feed your soul is to write down or go through your gratitude list. Here’s mine:
- I am grateful for having finished the 30 Day Vegan Challenge
- for opening up to the Vegan world and having decided to eat 80% vegan and the rest of the time everything I like to eat
- for walking around in a healthy and fit body
- for every emotion I feel
- for choosing for my well-being instead of feeling guilty about choosing for myself in relationship with my mom
- for my interest in people
- for my drive to heal people from their wounds
- for my capacity to guide people so they feel strong from the inside
- for my intuitivity
- for my writing skills
- for my grey hairs and especially for smiling when a friend mentioned my grey hairs
- for my ability to present other world views to people who need a change of perspective
- for feeling strong by what I eat
- for connecting with people in different ways: social media, on the streets, public transport
- for loving life dearly
- for talking with Amé about death
- for laughing out loud
- for enjoying books
- for loving to dance
- for sharing food with friends
- for organizing family gatherings
- for seeing things differently
- for feeling calm from within
- for shining like I do
- for my deep urge to change the world for the better
- for my desire to share and spread the word on high sensitivity
- for the people around me who see what I can bring
- for seeing and feeling what I can bring about
- for having been the mom that I am towards Amé
- for my insights
- for my teaching skills when it comes to children, they are so much fun, everyone wants to be seen
- for sharing the truth
- To conclude: this gratitude list is about how grateful I am to be me
My experience with coachees is that most people do have some kind of idea about what they want in life, but they don’t know how to get there.
1. Finetuning personal goals
During the first session we talk about these ideas on work, love relationship and other wishes regarding their personal development. Like I said, most people have some kind of idea about what they want in life, but when they find themselves talking to a coach they actually finetune what they want. For example: I want a job which will match my studies, knowledge and job experience. We can finetune this goal into: I want a job in which I can mainly work with people away from the desk. I am a real people person. We can then add this to the previous goal and we get a much clearer idea of where we should head to.
2. Identity coaching: who are you?
After having set out the personal goals of the coaching traject we really start talking about how you can get there. To get there you need yourself! What do I mean by this? You need to know what your skills are, what you are capable of doing, what your strong and weak points are and how you can put your skills out there to get what you want. Most of the time I come in (into your life) as a coach to broaden and deepen your view on yourself as a person and on life. There are different coaching ways to get out there what you’re good at.
3. Changing mood: get positive and focused
Further down the road: there is no need to talk any further about what you want in life if you’re mentally not ready to think about those stuff. So first of all, I will get you through your world of limiting beliefs. When thinking back on a session I believe the most important thing in which I succeeded during this session was changing the mood of the coachee. At start the coachee was really sad; eyes were hanging, radiation a bit greyish and tone-of-voice was empty. After around 15 minutes I started provoking. From that moment onwards the coachee’s mood became more and more positive; laughing, stronger non-verbal communication, more strength in tone-of-voice and even joking around.
And when you feel in the mood again we get back on the tracks you have chosen to be.
In December I gave a training on Passion, Vision and Mission. (Dutch presentation)
To get an impression of the way I work, click through to see the Key Note presentation.